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Test: are you ready for family life?
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Will family ties be a burden to you if you decide to start a family? And are you capable of true intimacy? After all, a marriage, even the happiest one, has its ups and downs.

Some are better able to cope with difficulties, others worse. And what qualities are needed to make a marriage happy? Answer our questions - and forward to the secrets of your soul!

Choose the appropriate answer to each question: A – 3 points, b – 2 points, c – 1 point.

1. Do you like people who don’t hide their feelings? A - yes, b - sometimes, c - no.

2. Do you prefer to communicate with people from whom you can learn something useful? A - no, b - sometimes, c - yes.

3. When a friend tells you about a sad event, such as the death of a close relative or the loss of a job, do you feel uneasy and try to change the topic of conversation? A - sometimes, b - perhaps, c - always.

4. Are you only friends with people who like to do the same things as you? A - no, b - perhaps, c - yes.

5. Will you feel awkward if the person with whom you came to the cinema bursts into tears during the screening, and decide to yourself that you will never go to the cinema with him again? A - no, b - maybe, c - yes.

6. If on a first date most of the evening was spent talking, do you consider such an evening wasted? A - no, b - sometimes, c - yes.

7. Will you be satisfied with the conversation if your interlocutor did most of the talking? A - yes, b - sometimes, c - no.

8. Would you sign up for a sports section at your work in order to meet new people? A - yes, b - maybe, c - no.

9. Do you feel the need to tell everything about your past love affairs to your new lover? A – always, b – sometimes, c – never.

10. Do you want to achieve some physical intimacy on the first date? A - yes, b - depends on the circumstances, c - no.

11. Do you feel awkward when going somewhere without a queue? A - no, b - sometimes, c - yes.

12. Do you think that the man should be the first to invite you on a date? A - always b - sometimes, c - never.

13. Do surprises (whether pleasant or unpleasant) confuse you? A - never, b - sometimes, c - always.

14. Do you prefer to do something together rather than alone? A - yes, b - sometimes, c - no.

15. Do you agree that relationships depend primarily on how people behave with each other in everyday life? A - yes, b - maybe, c - no.

16. Would you go to the gym with your boss just to increase your chances of getting promoted? A - yes, b - maybe, c - never

17. Would you date a person who does not share your food preferences or your ideas about cultural recreation? A - no, b - maybe, c - yes.

18. Don’t you think that you participate in the public life of the team only in order not to cause gossip? A - no, b - it happens, c - yes.

19. Imagine that you went on a first date to an amusement park, and suddenly your date gets seasick. Would you be indignant that the walk was hopelessly ruined, and immediately part ways and go home? A – never, b – perhaps, c – yes.

20. Do you keep secrets from close friends? A – no, b – when and how, c – yes.

results

It's time to find out what your chances are for a successful marriage. Intimacy refers to fairly close relationships, not just sexual ones.

50 – 60: You get close to people easily. Don't be afraid to appear in front of them as you really are. The state of falling in love is pleasant and natural for you; at the same time, you do not experience the fear of losing independence or being rejected.

36 – 49: It is not so easy for you to establish close relationships with anyone, although you certainly want to find a companion on your life’s path. A little more self-confidence, and your fear of marriage, if not completely disappearing, will become almost invisible.

20 - 35: maybe you would like to have a loved one, but the very thought of getting closer scares you. You will have to work on yourself, for example, learn to communicate with people, before you take such a serious step as entering into a marriage.

Online test for family life: Are you ready to devote your whole life to him/her?

Family life is a huge challenge for any person. Will I be able to be a real husband? What if it doesn't work out? But, over time, these issues are overcome. In the future, you need to talk about whether you are ready to be with this person all your life, and to the end and without doubt? Is this person worthy of you devoting your entire life to him? Or is this beyond your capabilities? Or, on the contrary, is this all you dream about?
The questions, of course, are quite interesting and purely personal. But every person, if he wants, can “dig” into himself and find the answers. Moreover, it is not so difficult if you want, and this test is just a hint.

Psychological test Are you ready to devote your whole life to him/her? You can go online completely free of charge (without registration and without sending SMS). If possible, leave your review and rate it. Happy testing!

Reviews about the family life test:

• Oleg| Stry
  Normal


• Daria| Permian
  A very good and truthful test. Almost everything coincided with my life.


• Kate| Kyiv
  Good test


• Anna| Barnaul
  The test is generally good, but for many questions I would like a different answer, because... the rest are quite far from my worldview. And the answer to the test is quite truthful, but I would like more practical advice.


• Raksana| Saint Petersburg
  I completely agree....

Illusions, self-deceptions

Every person understands that starting a family, family life is a challenge for which you can be prepared, but you can not be quite ready. But most even family people have a vague understanding of what this challenge is, so everyone has their own idea of ​​readiness.

Most people, when thinking about their readiness for family life, limit themselves to a narrow number of criteria, focusing either on their strengths or weaknesses. For example, a beautiful woman may believe that her beauty is enough to be a good wife. A religious girl may think that her religiosity is a universal answer to all the challenges of family life. A man who earns little and does not have his own home can, based on this, conclude that he is unsuitable for marriage. A rich man, on the contrary, can consider himself an excellent match just because he is rich. There are many other “tunnel views” on this issue.

All these points of view are incorrect due to their limitations. In fact, to create a family not only in name, but also in essence, you need a very specific and fairly wide range of advantages. We'll look at it below. But first, let's figure out why we need all these qualities.

Challenges and tasks of family life

In order to register a marriage, have a beautiful wedding, go on a trip, and run away after 6-12 months, no special qualities are required. There is no need to prepare for such a marriage. What kind of marriage needs preparation?

We will not deeply consider the goals of marriage and justify them here, since this side of the issue is discussed in many of our other materials. Let us recall just some of the features of such a family, which can be considered real, happy, and having fulfilled its destiny.

1. A full-fledged family does not break up when children become adults. (And what’s more, it doesn’t disintegrate before that).

2. Throughout the life of the family, love between spouses remains, only the nature of this love changes.

3. Both spouses feel most of their personal needs are satisfied.

4. Both spouses grow as individuals throughout their family life and realize their talents both within the family and outside.

5. Children (if they are born) in such a family are happy, confident in their parents’ love for them, and enter adulthood psychologically intact and ready for further harmonious development.

I don’t know if this set of traits might seem easily achievable to someone, but in reality such families are in the minority. And precisely because both spouses or one of them do not have the necessary set of advantages. They were not prepared when registering the marriage, and did not bother to start preparing later when the problems began. After all, it is much easier to blame the second partner for everything and dream that if next time you choose a spouse more successfully, the family will be much happier. Or fruitlessly feel sorry for yourself, unlucky, as if you cannot change in the desired direction...

It’s never too late to realize reality and start changing. But good luck to you if you set yourself such a task even before marriage.

Or better yet, before choosing a partner. Because by preparing for marriage, you will take a new look at what kind of companion you need on this great path. While you yourself are not yet ready for marriage, you will definitely choose someone who is not suitable for you. Someone with whom you won’t be able to start a family, which we described in five points.

You're not going to pull a cart for two, are you?

Primary and secondary criteria

Our work in the Perezhit.ru group of sites with thousands of difficult family and personal situations, successful and not so successful attempts to help people, allowed us to clearly identify the main categories of human qualities that influence how his personal relationships and family relationships develop. in particular. These are the three main categories.

1. Psychological safety (psychological category).

3. Knowledge about building a family (information category).

Below we will look at each of them in detail and show why if at least one of the spouses is weak in at least one of these three points, the family’s chances are sharply reduced.

In addition to these three main criteria of a person’s readiness for family life, there are many secondary ones. Including:

— health and appearance;

- income and wealth;

- useful skills;

- bad habits;

- education.

When carefully examining these criteria for assessing readiness for family life, it is easy to discover that most people, when assessing their readiness for marriage, look specifically at secondary things, paying little attention to the main ones. And in this conversation, on the contrary, we will not consider in detail the secondary, due to its obviousness and subjectivity, but will pay attention to the main and objective.

First criterion: psychological integrity

We are not talking about the absence of serious mental illnesses in a person; we are not considering this case, since psychiatry is a field of medicine and has little to do with the person himself. We are talking about a more subtle matter - psychological disorders.

We all have one or another psychological disorder to one degree or another. The question is the degree to which we deviate from the norm. The larger it is, the more problems we have in personal relationships. For example, what kind of violations could these be?

For example, low self-acceptance, immaturity, false guilt, too strict or too weak personal boundaries. How do these and other psychological problems poison our personal lives and family relationships?

1. We suffer in personal relationships.

2. Our suffering prevents us from seeing the suffering of a loved one and generally understanding him.

3. Our suffering causes us to hurt a loved one.

4. Our lack of understanding prevents us from meeting the needs of a loved one.

5. A sober vision of the situation and ways to resolve it is lost.

6. We distort and violate the very system and hierarchy of the family.

These are just some of the most common consequences of our psychological problems for the family. There are many others. As a result, we cannot fully fulfill our family role. Everyone in our family suffers, and what is especially sad is that our children suffer and become the heirs of our psychological problems.

The most common psychological problem is low self-acceptance (not to be confused with self-esteem). Low self-acceptance is the fruit of the fact that in childhood we did not receive enough accepting love from our parents. A person with low self-acceptance experiences strong emotions (not always joyful) in any personal relationship, mistaking them for love. But in reality there is little love there, more love addiction.

A dependent person faces enormous problems in his personal and family life. Starting with the fact that he often chooses as his wife someone who is problematic, who needs help and with whom it will be difficult. For example, a person who is also prone to addiction (love, alcohol, etc.) or a reveler, a person who is unable to remain faithful. In a marriage, a dependent person is prone to jealousy, suspicion, and anxiety. He always lacks his partner's attention. He rarely feels happy. Imagining that he gives himself entirely to his family (and indeed, devoting a lot of time and attention to the family), he does not give genuine accepting love to either his spouse or children, because of which everyone feels deprived of the main thing and does not develop as individuals properly or degrade (for example, the groom, who is still prone to drinking, becomes an obvious alcoholic).

Second criterion: worldview

Worldview is a person’s idea of ​​this world and his place and path in it. The most important component of a worldview is a conscious or subconscious idea of the meaning of your life.

Human personality is hierarchical: more basic things influence everything else. For example, the person’s vision of the meaning of his family life directly depends on a person’s understanding of the meaning of his life.

Take, for example, such a popular worldview, which can be expressed by the famous advertising slogan of one carbonated drink: “Take everything from life!” Its essence is that a person strives to get the most diverse, possibly pleasant, sensations from life. Can a person with such a worldview create a real family?

Of course not!

It’s normal to strive to be happy. But striving to “take it all,” to indulge in different sensations and emotions is completely different. The desire to “take everything” cannot give birth to anything good. Yes, a child can be born from the desire for pleasant sensations. But a new parent will not be able to raise a child mentally healthy and happy, based on the “take it all” approach. He most likely won’t even be able to stay with the family - after all, he still needs to take a lot of things from other places. And it is unknown what is worse, the presence of such a person in the family or his departure.

The higher the main life goal of a person, the higher the goal a person can set for his family life. And only with the highest goal can a family be complete - the kind we described above. That is, love (in its correct understanding) should have the highest priority in a person’s life.

And we can definitely say that a person whose love in its correct understanding comes first, tries to lead a chaste life. Because extramarital affairs reduce his ability to love. Long-term or frequent intimate relationships, and especially cohabitation, reduce our readiness to start a family.

An important component of a person’s worldview is his idea of ​​his ability to change and desire to develop. Unfortunately, many people confuse themselves with characters in computer games, whose destiny is to go through a certain path of gains, losses and deeds and end the game exactly the same as they started.

But a person’s life is meaningless without improving oneself, one’s personality. All life crises that are inevitable along our path, and there will be many of them in family life, confront us with the need to change, to overcome our weaknesses for the sake of the happiness of both. If a person has enough self-criticism and a positive attitude, then he changes, through this change he overcomes the crisis - as a result, the family is preserved and reaches a new level of love.

But the stone man, the computer man, doesn’t want to change. Therefore, he does not pass the test of crises, and in his family, first the existing beginnings of love die, and then the family comes to an end.

Third criterion: knowledge about building a family

The trouble with many people, especially women, is blind faith in the creative faith of emotions. It seems to them that mutual feelings will teach them everything in family life.

This is as naive as thinking that if a person really wants to build a house for himself, then he will figure out how to build it purely intuitively, without studying anything, due to his desire alone. That is, a passionate desire to build a good house will help him draw up a house project, figure out how to arrange the foundation, determine the proportions of the mortar and answer hundreds of other questions that arise during the construction process.

But no one builds houses like that, because it’s impossible to build a house like that. If a person really wants to build a house for himself, without being a builder, he reads, studies, and consults a lot. In general, he acquires knowledge about building houses.

And unfortunate builders of family houses often limit themselves to gossip with friends and girlfriends - who are just as illiterate in the matter of family construction as they themselves are. The disastrous result is natural.

In fact, building a family is no easier than building a house. And, as in building houses, family construction has its own rules, patterns, and skills that need to be learned. Sometimes we learn the right ideas about family from our parents’ family, but few people are so lucky, and even this knowledge may not be enough.

The desire of future spouses to reject the entire experience of humanity and engage in limitless creativity in their family according to the principle “And we will do everything in our own way. “As we agree among ourselves, we will do so” will inevitably lead to disappointment. Of course, every person and every family is unique. But spiritual laws are the same for everyone. Even if you draw up a written agreement, even if you seal it with blood, if it says that the brick should fall up, it will still fly down.

People who build a family not on knowledge, but on emotions, especially those who build it in the form of cohabitation, have a common cliche: “We are together as long as we have feelings.” The one who proceeds from this has already lost, because he does not know that feelings can be controlled, and how exactly to control them. Imagine that two people rode on a sleigh drawn by a pair of horses along the road leading from St. Petersburg to Moscow. But they don’t take the reins in their hands, but say proudly: “We are going from St. Petersburg to Moscow, while the horses are taking us to Moscow.”

Stupid. Funny. Sad.

Knowledge of how to preserve love, how to make sure that it goes through trials not dead, but stronger - this is the essence of all knowledge about building a family. But due to the complexity of human nature, the amount of information required is quite significant and cannot be acquired purely through experience.

What to do? (How to prepare?)

After all that has been said above, the natural question will be: “So what to do? How to prepare?

First of all, you need to get used to it know yourself. It is not so easy. It is more difficult to recognize yourself than someone else. But with enough desire, everything will work out. The main thing here, in addition to desire, is not to be afraid to learn something about your shortcomings. That is, you need to be self-critical and avoid self-justification, because self-justification is the mortal enemy of moving forward.

The main source of information for knowing ourselves is our communication with people. And especially - what evokes positive and negative emotions in us when communicating with people. What makes us happy, and what, on the contrary, depresses or irritates us. By observing your reactions to events and possessing certain knowledge, you will be able to draw completely objective conclusions about yourself.

If it turns out that we have significant psychological problems, they need to be dealt with. Both independently and with a psychologist. Under no circumstances should you expect that a psychologist will do everything for you. At most, if you are very lucky, he will help you get to know yourself and show you the right direction, where to move, what to change in yourself. In any case, you will have to do the lion's share of the work yourself.

Moreover, the more significant the problem, the longer it will take to eliminate it. For example, the problem of self-acceptance, love addiction, may require three or five years, depending on its degree and your diligence. But it’s still better to spend 3-5 years and then create a full-fledged family, than to rush and then torment yourself and other people in a distorted family for several years, and end up left in ruins with even greater mental trauma.

Change worldview very difficult, but possible. First of all, of course, you need to read. Many and different. My advice is to never miss Orthodox patristic literature from your reading circle (you can start with the books of John Climacus, Abba Dorotheus, Nicodemus the Svyatogorets, John of Kronstadt). You will not find anything more profound and harmonious about the meaning of human life.

A common mistake in the search for the true meaning of life is the opinion that our final understanding is formed on the basis of our sober analysis of the literature we read. This is wrong! It only seems to us that we have soberly analyzed everything and drawn conclusions. In fact, as psychologists say, “The structure of thinking is determined by the structure of activity.” That is, our way of life has a decisive influence on the formation of our worldview.

Therefore, you can improve your worldview only by improving your behavior.

Let’s say a person leads a rather unchaste life and regularly (even if not often) changes sexual partners. And such a person decided to prepare for starting a family, read literature about the meaning of life. So, if such a person does not change his behavior in the process of trying to learn, he will not be able to correct his worldview. If a psychological book says that it is better to abstain from sex until marriage, he will come up with an explanation why this is not true or does not apply to him. And such a person will not even be able to pick up Orthodox literature - his thinking is so distorted by his dubious behavior. Therefore, the only option for such a person to understand something about his life is to take a “moratorium” on sexual intercourse for at least a few months. And only then start reading and thinking about something serious.

As for the third component of your future happiness - knowledge about building a family, this is the simplest thing. It’s worth reading the “True Love” website and high-quality practical psychological literature (not university textbooks, but not pop either). The objectives are to understand the purpose of family life, the structure of the family hierarchy, and the needs of the spouses. Find out in advance the typical difficulties that arise in family life and how they are solved. He who is forewarned is forearmed.

An excellent help in preparing for family life is the Correspondence School of Love course. With its help, in a fairly short time you can thoroughly work out the informational component and partly the psychological one.

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The immaturity of a person, his unpreparedness to start a family ( Jacek Pulikowski)

Marriage is a serious decision for a man and a woman. Usually, nothing bad is expected from family life until it turns out that the newlyweds are not happy with some things about each other. For example, a husband devotes a lot of time to friends, but at the same time controls communication between the wife and her friends. Or the wife spends too much money onvisit to the hairdresser, manicuristAndspa massage sessions. How do you understand what your partner can’t put up with and what you will never accept? Is it really impossible to get married or should I wait?

The reason for divorce is “not ready for marriage”

Many marriages fall apart because one or both spouses are simply not ready for life together and the responsibilities that come with it. But how can you find out in advance and not take a rash step? About how to “test” yourself and your significant other for readiness for family life.

“When getting married, we think more about pleasant moments and least of all about the difficulties that we may encounter,” says the psychologist. “For example, young people in marriage are often primarily attracted to regular sex, as well as the opportunity to often spend time together. But over time it turns out that it is also necessary to solve everyday problems. If a child appears, there are much more worries. Family is not only pleasure, it is also a lot of responsibilities! Therefore, it is worth taking a closer look at each other while you are still living in a civil marriage, which most often precedes the official one.”

So, what criteria are used to evaluate readiness for marriage?

1. Lifestyle

Are you used to having get-togethers with your friends in the evenings, or hanging out on the Internet, or “preening your feathers” - giving yourself cosmetic masks and manicures? And you are not going to give up your favorite habits for the sake of your partner? This means, most likely, you are not yet ready for family life. It’s the same with a man - if after work he regularly rushes not home, but to drink beer with friends, goes bowling, etc., we need to draw the appropriate conclusions.

Nikolai: “When I returned from work, I almost never found my wife at home. She was spending time with her friends somewhere. It seemed that she was more interested in them than with me. When she and her friend went on vacation to the south without me, I filed for divorce.”

“Of course, no one demands that you give up entertainment and communication with friends,” says psychologist Tatyana Parenova. “But you can set aside certain days of the week for this.” If each spouse has their own life “on the side,” such a family is unlikely to be strong. The meaning of family life is precisely to do something together!”

2. Family responsibilities


If you live in your own home, and not with your parents, and you do not have a housekeeper, then in any case you will have to distribute household responsibilities among yourself. Does the thought of washing dishes or cooking dinner make you sad, and you would rather fill the sink with dirty dishes during the week and eat only sandwiches? Then you should think about whether you should get married at all! Although, if your other half thinks exactly the same, it means you have found each other.

Yuri: “When we got married, I had to cook food myself, since my wife refused to do it, saying that she didn’t know how. She rarely washed dishes and did laundry even less often. When I tried to talk to her about this, she replied that she was not hired as a servant. In the end, we broke up. Now I live in a civil marriage with a woman who does everything around the house.”

“A man doesn’t have to know how to hammer nails, but if instead of helping you carry heavy bags from the store, he watches football on TV, this is an alarming signal: he is not ready for family life!

It is best to agree on who does what around the house in advance, so that there are no conflicts later, says the psychologist. “No one will do this for you anyway!”

3. Finance

Do you each spend your money on yourself, and, in general, is everything the same as it was before the start of family life? Not a very good sign.

Laura: “I hoped that when Denis moved in with me, he would invest some money, because my salary is small. But during the six months they lived together, he did not buy anything except groceries. When I asked him for money a couple of times for something, he replied that there was none. And during this time he bought himself a car and an expensive phone, without consulting me! After that, I invited him to break up.”

“If you are going to live together, then in any case you will have to discuss financial matters - will the budget be joint or separate, who will pay for utilities, whose funds will be used to make purchases for the house, etc.,” comments psychologist Tatyana Parenova . – If it’s more convenient for you to have “separate accounts,” then maybe think about marriage and family life early?

In marriage, it is necessary to take into account not only your own interests, but also the needs of your partner. If one of you “gives up” on this, then it is unlikely that you will have a normal family life. Perhaps you should wait."

Wedding competitions are needed to relieve tension that may arise between unfamiliar guests and to create a relaxed atmosphere. After all, guests come to a wedding not only to enjoy the delicious dishes of the wedding table, but also to have a lot of fun and share with the newlyweds the most joyful day of their married life together.

The bride and groom are rightfully considered the main persons of the wedding celebration, and that is why the competition for the bride and groom at the wedding can be called the most interesting points of the festive scenario.

Preparing wedding competitions is considered a difficult and responsible task.

The purpose of a fun competitive competition is not only the desire to surprise and delight wedding guests with funny practical jokes, but also to introduce all relatives and guests of the wedding event to each other. Therefore, the newlyweds and the host diligently think through interesting and diverse fun competitions in advance.

Almost all wedding ceremonies are not complete without traditional comic wedding games and competitions.

These include:

• bride price. For this fun competition you will need special “tasty” props - champagne, sweets, boxes of chocolate or their monetary equivalent. One team of “sellers from the bride’s camp” meets another team of “buyers” - supporters of the groom and comes up with various comic tests for the future spouse that he must pass for the sake of his chosen one;
• wedding fortune-telling to determine the gender of the first-born in a young family. For this competition you need cabbage and a silver coin. Whoever finds the coin first among the newlyweds determines the gender of the unborn child. For another version of this fun competition, you will need different props: baby hats in blue and pink. Guests are invited to choose the future gender of the child, and to do this, put a small amount of money in the corresponding headdress. The competition ends by counting the banknotes in each cap. Whichever hat contains the most money, the same gender will be the first-born of the young couple;
• the touching custom of lighting a candle at the family hearth, in which the parents of the newlyweds and the bride and groom are directly involved. The meaning of this ritual is the symbolic transfer of the warmth and comfort of the parental home to the newlyweds.

Of particular interest at a wedding is the fun competition for the bride and groom.

The couple will have to go through humorous and funny tests, a kind of test of readiness for married life together.

Newlyweds need to show their abilities and skills in everyday life, decide who is the head of the family, show their caring and demonstrate their mutual love.

Competition tasks are conducted in a fun and playful manner. The most interesting competition is a fun verbal competition of questions and answers. Questions about the responsibilities of the bride and groom are written in advance on pieces of paper. Questions for the bride and groom can be of different content. For example, it is appropriate to ask the bride the following questions:

1. How many dishes will you cook for your beloved husband?
2. How many glasses of champagne can you drink?
3. How long can you talk to your friend on the phone?
4. How many fur coats would you like to have?
5. How many times will you forgive your beloved husband?
6. Do you agree to have three or more children?
7. Do you like the Kama Sutra?
8. Will you look at other people's men?

Options for humorous answers are prepared in advance on paper cards, which are placed on a special beautiful tray.

To answer, the toastmaster invites the bride and groom to choose any card and read it aloud.

Funny answers cause laughter and cheerful exclamations from wedding guests. The bride's answers may be as follows:

• That's all I think about.
• On payday.
• I can, but only in another room.
• Interesting to try.
• No more than once.
• You can try it.

You can ask the groom the following questions:

1. What's your wife's favorite dish?
2. How much alcohol can you drink without getting drunk?
3. Would you like to spend your entire honeymoon in your marital bedroom?
4. How many times a day will you say kind words to your wife?
5. Will you be vacationing with your wife in the Bahamas?
6. Do you agree to have three children?
7. Will you serve your wife coffee in bed?
8. Who will earn money in the family?

Sample humorous answers from the groom:

• I'm always ready.
• Do not even think about it.
• Only for you.
• Do not put salt on my wound.
• Only for you, my love.
• Only me and no one else.
• Next time.

The last question to the newlyweds will definitely be the toastmaster’s address to the bride and groom: “How many times, in your opinion, will the guests shout “Bitter!” to you? Having heard the newlyweds’ answer, the guests begin to shout “Bitter!”, after which the bride and groom kiss each other.

Questions should be extremely tactful and funny enough to maintain the festive mood of the wedding and not confuse the newlyweds.

Distribution of duties

You can find out in a humorous way the degree of preparedness of the newlyweds for life together with the help of a fun competition on the distribution of responsibilities in the family.

This interesting wedding tournament of newlyweds is held in the form of interesting and sometimes unexpected questions and funny comic answers.

The format of the competition on the knowledge and distribution of responsibilities of the bride and groom can be different.

Most often, this interesting competition is carried out in the following variants:

Notes. The toastmaster brings out pre-prepared notes with the household duties of the newlyweds. Each piece of paper is folded in such a way that the phrases written on them are not visible to anyone. The notes are either in a wide, beautiful box or on a tray.

The bride and groom take turns choosing notes for themselves and reading out their upcoming duties.

1. The note begins with the words: “I will...” and reads out what duty they will perform. For example:
2. Wash dirty dishes.
3. Take out the trash can.
4. Earn money for the family.
5. Play “tank” for days.
6. Give birth to children.
7. Do laundry.
8. Prepare and bring breakfast in bed.
9. Talk for hours on the phone.
10. Breastfeed your baby.
11. Go fishing with friends.
12. Knit hats and socks for children.
13. Watch TV for hours.

Play football with friends.

You can come up with a large number of interesting questions, but the answers of the newlyweds will be even more interesting.

Definitely, cheerful laughter will cause the bride’s answer about the obligation: “I will fight for days in the online game “Tanks.”

Numbers. Another option for holding a competition about the distribution of household responsibilities is to replace the leaves with prepared answers with cards with numbers. The bride and groom, in response to the presenter’s proposed questions, take a card with numbers, which lie numbers down, and show it instead of answering.

Random digital answers to humorous questions cause cheerful laughter and applause from guests. For example, the toastmaster asks the groom a question about continuing the honeymoon, and the groom pulls out a card with the number 100.

This means that the young spouse agrees not to leave the marital bedroom for one hundred days.

1. You can prepare questions for the bride:
2. How many times will you kiss your husband when you meet?
3. How many times will you forgive your spouse?
4. How much champagne can you drink without getting drunk?
5. How many dishes will you prepare?

How much time will it take you to prepare for a trip to the cinema or theater?

1. Suggested questions for the groom:
2. How many times will you say kind words to your wife?
3. How many times a day will you carry your wife in your arms?
4. How much cognac can you drink?
5. How many children do you want to have?

The wedding host accompanies any date with funny jokes and funny comments that make the wedding guests laugh.

Chamomile. The third option for holding a competition for the distribution of responsibilities will be a kind of lottery - tearing off the petals on a large daisy.

1. A beautiful large white chamomile is prepared, on the petals of which all sorts of symbols are written on the reverse side:
2. Frying pan for cooking.
3. A glass of beer with friends on vacation.
4. Cosmetic bag for creating makeup.
5. Iron for ironing clothes.
6. Thread and needle for sewing and repairing clothes.
7. A pack of washing and detergent powder for washing.

Skewers for kebabs.

The toastmaster invites the newlyweds to pick the petals one by one and, according to the symbol that appears, read out the duties that the newlyweds undertake to fulfill. The random answer option, when the groom comes across a petal with an image of an iron, and the young wife a glass of beer, usually causes cheerful laughter.

Of course, such a non-standard and unusual distribution of responsibilities in the family is regarded as a funny joke.

A comic competition on the distribution of responsibilities in the family ends with the words of the host: “Now all the guests are convinced that the young people have distributed all household responsibilities among themselves. At the same time, we understand that true love will help newlyweds in overcoming life’s difficulties and obstacles.”

The interest of guests in competitions related to the family life of newlyweds is generally understandable. Guests often perceive such a family test as a kind of comic prophecy and listen with pleasure to the newlyweds’ funny answers.

Funny competitions between young people for the distribution of household duties in an entertaining way will delight all guests of the wedding party.

To know each other

• "Love Letter" For this competition you need small props: a hat and small plates made of thick paper with the names of individual parts of the body: arm, leg, shoulder, eyes, nose, ears. The presenter sets the groom the task of reading to his bride a pre-prepared love letter with an address to his beloved with spaces in the text.
• The groom begins to read the address and takes a sign out of his hat to insert the missing word. The phrase “Darling, I really want to look into your beautiful ears” (and pulls out a note with the word “ears”) causes loud and cheerful laughter from the audience. Competition for the bride “Sew the groom’s outfit out of nothing.” The toastmaster offers the bride a roll of toilet paper and offers to make a tie out of it for the young spouse with one condition - to use the entire roll of paper for this. Wedding guests are encouraged to count paper turns to create a tie around the groom's neck.

How many turns - how many kisses a bride should give to her betrothed.

The most common competitions are comic competitions involving guessing the bride and groom among other wedding guests.

Guess the bride by her leg, arm, kiss

In the fun competition “Guess Your Betrothed by Her Legs,” a blindfolded groom will have to recognize the bride by the contestants’ bare legs just above the knee. When the groom is blindfolded, the participants change places, and several men sit down with them to laugh. The bride is replaced by another girl. Accompanied by cheerful music, the groom touches the legs of the participants with his hands, thus identifying his bride.

A competition to determine the bride's hand is held in a similar way. Women of different ages can participate in this competition: from grandmothers to girls.

For the “Recognize the Bride by a Kiss” competition, several representatives of the fair sex are invited, including the bride. The Groom is seated on a chair, blindfolded and asked to recognize the bride by a kiss. The bride always kisses. There is another variation of this fun competition. The newlywed leaves the wedding hall for a while.

The toastmaster invites the bride and other participants in the competition to leave an imprint of their lips on the paper. The groom must find his beloved's kiss on paper.

Recognize the groom by his voice, ear

Several helium-filled balloons are used as props. Male participants, among whom will be a young spouse, are invited to say the phrase: “Darling, I love you so much!” through a helium balloon.

The bride must recognize her groom among the changed votes of the competition participants. Another recognition option is to guess the newlywed by his earlobe. A blindfolded bride must guess her young husband among several contestants. Participants sit on chairs and expose their ears to the newlywed for inspection.

During this funny competition, the toastmaster comments on the funny search with funny and witty remarks.

A very funny and interesting wedding competition for newlyweds:

At a wedding celebration, comic tournaments of the newlyweds in a humorous and amusing form allow guests to relax and have a lot of fun in a relaxed atmosphere. Cool, funny competitions create a unique atmosphere of a festive celebration. Do you agree with this statement?