How to lie to a guy that you're pregnant. Deceive a guy by saying she's pregnant. Give birth without being pregnant

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Colombian passions.

Colombian resident Antonella Milena Santiago Padilla faked pregnancy so that her husband would not leave her, and when the due date came, she made up a complicated story involving a kidnapping, Televisa reports.

Milena told her family that she had gone to a neighboring area to collect a debt from her friends. There, unknown people forced her into a red car, put her to sleep, and removed the baby from her womb. Milena realized this only when she finally came to her senses.

The attackers allegedly wanted to sell her child on the black market.

Milena's family became alarmed and took her to the hospital, although she did not want doctors to examine her. When the doctors found out that she had gone to collect the money, they were surprised - after all, according to Milena herself, she was supposed to give birth that day.

The police interviewed possible witnesses to the abduction, but they did not confirm her testimony. And the doctors who examined her found no traces of a sleeping substance in her blood.

At the same time, they found out that Milena was not pregnant.

A woman faked pregnancy using a fake belly. According to her mother-in-law, although the stomach was quite small, it did not arouse suspicion in anyone. The woman put rags in the fake belly to make it bigger.

She also printed out a picture of the ultrasound results from the Internet and showed it to relatives as proof of pregnancy. And all this - to keep her husband!

Now Milena faces punishment for deceiving the authorities...

One question: how could the husband not notice anything?!

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Of course, if you believe the endless series that are constantly broadcast on our TV channels, all men necessarily believe in such a legend. But these are just TV series, and far from being of high quality.

But what do we really have? After all, it is easy to deceive him by saying that you are pregnant from him, but will this lie entail exactly the consequences that you expect?

Firstly, if a man does not want to stay with you, then he is no longer inclined to have children together. Perhaps he is simply not ready for this, or perhaps he simply does not want to start a family with this particular woman. That is why the news of pregnancy is more likely to make him quickly pack his bags and disappear in an unknown direction, rather than repent and swear eternal love.

Well, what if we assume the option that he still believed and stayed? In this case, the person will definitely try to check. Of course, you can get a fake certificate, but guys are often not so stupid as to blindly believe a piece of paper. Most likely, he will go with you to the doctor, and perhaps he will take you to a specialist he knows, and then the truth will definitely be revealed. And your grievances and words “how can you test me?” won't work because he doesn't care. If he leaves you, it means he no longer loves you. But offending an indifferent person is much simpler and easier, and his conscience is unlikely to torment him.

But even if we assume that he did believe, who can guarantee that he will stay? A man can simply promise help and alimony, but not the hand and heart that a woman naively hopes for. Judge for yourself how many guys disappear when they find out that a girl is really pregnant. So what makes you think that yours is not like that? Of course, women tend to idealize their chosen ones, but sometimes, it’s still worth facing the truth. If a man doesn’t need a woman, then most likely he doesn’t need a child either. He can, for example, simply give money for an abortion. And in this case, you will only receive some kind of small financial compensation, and not what you are counting on when starting this scam.

But still, let’s say that your man is a romantic and naive idealist who believes in universal truth and goodness. Therefore, without any checks or suspicions, he takes your words on faith and remains close. What will you do next? Try hard to get pregnant just to prove your point? Are you ready to raise this baby yourself, take on responsibilities, give up freedom? Most often, women who make such decisions do not think at all about what will happen next. And then a family is built in which hatred and irritation reign and a child grows up, completely unnecessary to the mother. The consequence of this is distorted destinies, inappropriate behavior and anger towards the whole world. Are you ready to take responsibility for the fact that your son or daughter will be deeply unhappy? Of course, all people sometimes act immorally, but there must be a limit to everything.

If a woman does not plan to give birth, then, of course, after a while she tells a story about a miscarriage, in this way hoping to kill two birds with one stone: to hide the lies and tie the man. According to the scenario of such ladies, the guy will stay next to her to pity and console her. But this is fundamentally wrong. This only happens in soap operas. But in real life, most likely, the guy will simply breathe a sigh of relief, turn around and leave. And then what to do, what other legend to come up with?

To deceive a guy and say that you are pregnant, in the hope of his return, is naive and completely illogical. It is better to remain silent about the moral side of such actions. It’s stupid to think that anyone will be happy in a family built on lies. Even if the guy stays with you after all this, it’s stupid to hope that he can fall in love again. If love is gone, it cannot be restored, at least not in this way. Essentially, this is violence against a person. Over his needs and desires. But none of us likes being forced to do something. That is why, for a man, life with you will be slavery, which he hates and simply does not know how to get rid of. Usually such marriages end in divorce and constant infidelity on the part of the husband. And his wife, over time, simply begins to hate him, realizing that although he is physically nearby, mentally he is somewhere very far away.

So think about it, is it worth pursuing such ephemeral happiness for yourself? Do you want a person who can never say “I love” sincerely? Are you ready to survive with the thought that you deceived a loved one and are simply paying for it?

Love cannot be returned by force. Therefore, it is better not to stoop to such low-grade ideas and simply let the person go. Of course, it will be painful and offensive, but this suffering cannot be compared with what you are dooming yourself to by choosing a lie. To deceive a guy is to instantly doom the relationship to collapse, to complete failure. It is impossible to get into something serious with a lie, since lies always come up, leaving you with an unpleasant feeling, as if you were standing naked in the middle of a crowded street.

There are things that cannot be changed and feelings that cannot be revived. Not a single man has ever been truly attracted to a child. Even real, not to mention imagined. Even if the father of seven children wants to leave the family, he will do it, and his beloved daughters and son will not interfere with him. Of course, everyone has the right to choose their own path to achieving a goal, but sometimes it is worth admitting that the plan is simply naive and meaningless, and abandoning it in time. After all, any lie leads to another, and then another and another. And when there is too much untruth, it will definitely open up. That is why, think a hundred times before deciding to take such a step.

Lika, 29 years old:

“About three months after the wedding, I decided to “please” my husband. I prepared for the April Fool's joke in advance: I bought booties and a card “To the future daddy!”, left it on the kitchen table along with breakfast and calmly went to work (my husband then got up later than me).

I waited all day for sentiments. Sasha – zero reaction. I came home in the evening and cooked dinner. I’m waiting, but my husband is still not there. Around 9 pm I started to get nervous: had something happened? I call him - he doesn’t answer the phone, I call my mother-in-law - she doesn’t know where her son is. 22.00, 22.30…

At 23 I’m already starting to tear my hair out. Was he really so scared that he decided not to come home? Then I hear the key turning in the lock. Sasha comes in, covered in snow and with a huge stroller in his hands. “Darling!” - shouts. He himself has a blush on his face, his eyes are burning: “I bought us a stroller!” Look how beautiful it is!“

I definitely didn’t expect this outcome of events. I stand and remain silent, and then I’ll take it and say: “Yes, I was joking, Sasha...”

The husband’s face immediately changed. He didn’t talk to me for several days, but then he walked away and carefully placed the stroller on the balcony. For seven years she waited in the wings. I waited a year ago. Now we carry our daughter in this very stroller. And every time we put the child in it, Sasha tells Alice about the evil mommy, who comes up with very evil jokes and mocks daddy.”

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Arina, 23 years old:

“Once I decided to teach a big-tongued guy a lesson... He loved to beautifully describe his feelings, promise mountains of gold and swear eternal fidelity. When we first met, I, like a naive girl, fell for sweet speeches. I believed that he was the one I had been waiting for all my life!

Six months of a sick relationship and a bucket of noodles eaten from my own ears... In the end, I broke up with him, but after that it turned out that we celebrated the New Year in a common company of friends and... you understand!

For the next three days I listened to what a gift I was in his life, that there was no forgiveness for him... At first I was silent, and then I said: “Darling, I’m a few days late. I don’t want to scare you, but if it is confirmed that we are having a child, I would like to keep him. What do you say?"

Suddenly, for some reason, I became a selfish person who makes decisions alone, and he is not ready for a family, and especially not for children. Who would doubt that? But I stood my ground, wanting to make him nervous.

“Papa” found out the truth about a month later. They say he was terribly happy. But he no longer goes on dates without condoms. Fears!"

Alexandra, 22 years old:

“One of my mom’s friends tried to keep her cheating boyfriend. There were few options, but she decided to choose the proven one - an imaginary pregnancy.

Everything was done masterfully - 30-year-old Alena M. bought the hormone hCG, or “Chorionic Gonadotropin,” at the pharmacy. It is in liquid form - this made it possible to dilute it with urine and conduct the test in the presence of the stunned “groom”, who did not know about his new marital status in the morning. Alena could have been awarded an Oscar for directing and acting - the surprise and tears of happiness were absolutely realistic. True, this did not save the union - the guy immediately offered money for an abortion. But Alena was not at a loss even here - she arranged a demonstrative visit to the doctor, who took tests behind a closed door, and did not remove the unexpected fruit of love.

True, it didn't help. The ship of love eventually crashed on the rocks of everyday life. The couple broke up, but... Alena still had an impressive amount of money, which she spent on shopping and cosmetics.”

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Ira, 25 years old:

“We were just starting to meet, and Lesha had just gotten his first job - he became a junior specialist. I was a student. There was a lot of time, so I actively spent it, getting on my husband’s nerves.

One day I doubted that Lesha loved me, and therefore decided to give him a test. Without thinking twice, I sent him a text message: “Honey, I’m pregnant!”

I don’t know whether it was from an overabundance of feelings or from surprise, but my beloved decided to faint at work. And since at that moment he was sitting on a swivel chair, he rattled the chair right away!

Five years have passed since then. The husband could have forgotten everything a long time ago, but his colleagues... no, no, and they will remind you of the unpleasant incident. And everything would be fine! Only my Lesha is no longer an errand boy, but a deputy director. It's a shame, though."

Sveta, 33 years old:

“I had quite a long delay. I went to the doctor to get tested. My man knew that I was running to doctors. Somehow I decided to once again inquire about my health, and I foolishly said that I was pregnant.

Alas, he was not happy... Then I admitted that I was joking, there was no pregnancy... But he was offended. Doesn't want to communicate with me at all. He says that I acted vilely by deceiving him. He doesn't want to forgive me. He mocks as best he can. But I love him, I don’t know what to do.”

Expert opinion

Ekaterina Fedorova, psychologist, coach, leading sex trainer in Moscow and author of educational books:

Many girls have an excellent sense of humor, but do not always understand what witty jokes can lead to. The man is offended, but you don’t understand what happened - it seems like you didn’t say anything offensive. There are taboo topics that are best not joked about, and one of them is pregnancy. Of course, every girl wants to know how ready the partner is for such a turn of events. However, the standard phrase “honey, I’m pregnant” can greatly and for a long time undermine a man emotionally. This is comparable to a joke: “Darling, I kept wanting to tell you that I’m married!”

In addition to emotional disruption, a man may be upset by the fact that you are testing his strength, which means you don’t trust him or simply decided to ruin his mood. There is a type of guy for whom one such joke is enough - and they are already able to break up with their girl, and not even because they are not yet ready to become a father.

Pregnancy is a serious topic, and it may happen that after the second such statement the man will not react in any way, and you are really expecting a child. Everything will turn out like in the old parable “about the shepherd and the wolf,” and it will be offensive not to the guy, but to you.