How to meet a girl. Here's my girlfriend, or how to introduce her to friends. Ask friends about the guy, about his ex-girlfriends.

Congratulations, you finally managed to find your soulmate! You openly flirted with her in front of your colleagues, kissed drunk in the back seat of a taxi, and even managed to determine who her ex was from photos from five years ago on Instagram. Now it's time to introduce her to your friends. Your boyfriends and girlfriend are probably the most important people in your life (when you move out, of course), and so it's important that they get along somehow.

Many men are slapdash in this regard. You definitely don't want to be one of them. It's much better to be a guy who can adapt to the situation and behave more sensitively with a girl than with his buddies. Of course, you don’t want to lose your friends, much less the girl who finds your falling apart car cute. We'll tell you how you should behave with your girlfriend in the company of friends.

1. Not all at once

The first impression of a person is very important, no matter how you look at it. Making sure that the girl makes a good impression on your friends is also your task. You should not introduce your significant other to friends during an important occasion for you and your friends. For example, presenting her at an annual friendly convention in a country house (where you and a crowd of guys have traditionally gone for the last fifteen years) is not a good idea. You'll still have time when she remembers the names of your friends and their girlfriends and gets into your jokes for her own about Nicolas Cage. By introducing her to all your friends at the wrong time, you are making her an outsider, and it will be much more difficult for her to connect with them. It makes much more sense to introduce her to one or two friends at a time.

2. Don't leave her alone

When a girl has already met all your friends and you gradually begin to invite her to public events, do not leave her alone. Of course, following her wherever she goes and waiting impatiently for her near the restroom is not at all necessary. You don’t even need to get involved in all her conversations. But leaving a girl at a party where you know twenty people, and she only knows two (you and your strange ex-classmate)... Don't forget about her. Ask if she needs anything (you might even ask twice!). You don't need to watch her like a small child, but you should remind her of the names of your friends, whom she only saw once, and then after drinking two carafes of sangria. Try not to leave her with difficult or strange people. If you know that one of your friends is not the most interesting person to talk to, don’t let him corner your girlfriend for a couple of hours. Or if your other friend is a completely disgusting sexist, don’t leave her to go get another glass of wine. If you see that a girl is uncomfortable, approach her and find out how she is doing. Holding her hand all the time, of course, is not necessary, but figuring out which of your comrades is not the best interlocutor and trying to avoid him is a great idea.

3. Leave early

Watching your friends play a video game is not fun. Leave parties a little earlier than you normally would. Whether your girlfriend is an introvert or not, meeting new people is extremely energy-intensive. In other words, she cannot yet relax, as she does with her friends, with yours. So don't stay at the party until four in the morning, remembering all the drunken university parties, while she refreshes her Instagram feed for the hundredth time in the hope that you will finally realize that she wanted to leave six hours ago. Of course, she is capable of expressing her desires to you herself. But she may not do this. Perhaps she just doesn't want to ruin your evening. She cares about you, and you, in turn, will treat her with understanding - leave immediately when you notice that she is bored or tired. Try to imagine this as your desire, say, for example: “Well, are you ready to get out of here?”

4. Don't change when you're with friends.

Using the movie Grease as an example can be a dangerous idea. Still, the moral of this story is that it is worth changing for the sake of love. But the film does teach viewers one important lesson: when Danny Zuko tries to look cool in front of his friends, he comes off as a complete jerk. You will look the same way when trying to surprise your friends. You do not behave with a girl the same way you behave, for example, with colleagues. And this is good! But the way you talk and act with your friends and your girlfriend should look pretty much the same. If this is not the case, either your girlfriend is not right for you, or you have bad friends (or you are the problem). Don’t even think about bringing your girlfriend to friendly gatherings and telling everyone embarrassing details from her biography or showing a nasty side of yourself that you carefully hid from her. Nothing raises suspicion like a guy who turns into a villain in the company of friends. No one asks you to call her cute names, as you usually do at home, or to kiss her in front of everyone, but you shouldn’t turn into a fool either. Everyone is ashamed to look at this.

Before you meet your boyfriend's parents for the first time, you will face an equally difficult test - meeting your loved one's friends. As you know, many men depend on the opinions of their own friends. Therefore, the first impression you make on them is especially important for your relationship with your loved one. Several rules that you need to remember and follow will help you successfully pass this test.

You should not dress too provocatively. Forget forever about low-necked clothes: a dress or a top, you also need to give up high-heeled shoes. Remember, you're going to meet a guy's friends, not to a slumber party with the goal of picking up someone else. Your outfit must match! At the same time, do not forget that you are still a woman - so you should not dress like a guy in order to fit into a male environment.

Don't be too clingy to your boyfriend. For a girl who finds herself in a company unfamiliar to her, it is quite natural to want to be near her “boyfriend” all the time. However, if you get to know the guy around you, this habit can become destructive for you. If you don’t make an attempt to find a common language with his friends and don’t communicate with them, then naturally they are unlikely to like you. Show everyone that you are an independent person, that you can easily carry on a conversation and please others. Your boyfriend will definitely appreciate it.

Try to make friends as quickly as possible and win the sympathy of the guy's friends. This will be facilitated by your sincere interest in the conversation and the ability to listen to your interlocutor.

Act according to the situation and be extremely attentive when communicating with people who are new to you. At first it will be quite difficult for you to understand what style of conversation is accepted here, so be prepared for any surprises and try to enjoy the communication.

Give everyone equal attention and communicate with every member of the company, be it a guy or a girl. Naturally, making friends with girls is much easier than with guys. However, remember that a lot will depend on the attitude of the guy’s friends towards you. In order to become pleasant to them, do not flirt under any circumstances. Especially if they are married or dating a girl.

Never ask your boyfriend about his past relationships with other girls and do not start a conversation on this topic with his friends.

Before you start, close your eyes and remember how many cute girls you see every day on your way to work or school. And how many of them are among colleagues, at university, at a party or just on a social network. Now imagine that you know each of them, are friends and can turn this friendship into something more. Just don’t need to sigh sadly, all this is possible. So let's figure out how to meet a girl.

In previous articles we learned, and if you are well prepared, then success will definitely await you. And now you are ready to work in the field All that remains is to learn how to do it easily and naturally. Fortunately for you and me, meeting girls is very simple, and this skill can be developed either by regularly repeating attempts, or you need to follow some simple instructions and upgrade them depending on the situation.

First, you need to understand where you want to meet a girl. After all, there can be many places: work, study, nightclub, cafe, party in a large company, street, internet. Depending on this, your scripts (action scenario) for meeting a girl change.

You may ask, why do I need such scripts? Everything is very simple, because dating always has two main obstacles: fear and not understanding what needs to be said, where to start the conversation. And if you already have the right words in your head that are relevant for the situation in which you met the girl, then you won’t have to frantically think about what to say...the answers are already prepared. And the fear will also go away, because what was said will not entail any unpleasant consequences - the girl will not send you away (although anything can happen, of course:p), she will not disgrace you in front of everyone, and she will not even consider you a psycho/maniac (underline as appropriate). So let's get down to business...

at work/study

The first and very common option is that the girl works or studies with you. You see her every day, but you have no idea what her name is, and she doesn’t even know about your existence. What to do in this situation? First, breathe out, because you already have a trump card - since you are colleagues or classmates, it is easy to find a topic for the first conversation. For example, contact us regarding some work issue:

“Hi, are you from the sales department? Can you tell me how clients react to our new project? By the way, my name is (your name), and yours? Very nice. So you're saying everyone is excited? It’s good to hear, I’ll continue to work, so it’s not all in vain. Have a good day"

through friends

at the party

But if you come to a nightclub and decide to meet a girl, you will have to try a little. Just don’t be scared right away, it’s not all that complicated. After all, many girls don’t just go to nightclubs or cafes to dance, and they also don’t mind meeting an interesting young man (you’ll have to become interesting, but what can you do). The main thing here is to observe and show a little courage. What exactly to observe? Well, at least understand whether the girl came with her boyfriend, otherwise, instead of meeting her, you will get to know him. And who needs it?

The second thing you notice is her friends. Usually you will have to look from afar, but even this way you can determine how adequate or bitchy they are. The last factor can get in the way, because some girls like to butt into conversations at the wrong time. Therefore, if everything is fine, feel free to approach their table. It might look like this :

“Hi girls, can I sit down with you for a minute, let’s get to know each other, and at the same time I’ll treat you to a cocktail, my name is (your name).”

If you were not sent, then remember the names, otherwise many people, out of nerves, may forget not only the girl’s friends, but also the lady of the heart herself, and then there will be an embarrassment. And then ask them if they come here often, tell them about yourself, where you work, where you study, ask them the same thing... and then a conversation begins. But don't stay long unless you're invited to stay. In general, act according to the situation. In our version, you return to your table and after some time (the party continues) you try to meet your sweetheart again on the dance floor (learn to dance, you need to...), near the bar, or again at the table when the ladies are a little tipsy. And there you will already find out all the contacts, in fact this is the main goal of the evening (and not what you thought, males).

If the young ladies' friends are not very good, then go straight to meeting them on the dance floor, in a bar or in line for the toilet, on the street in a smoking room, anywhere, as long as not at a table. Any innocent phrase will help you:

“You dance great, by the way I’m (your name), what’s your name?”

Or for example:

“It’s a good place, just noisy, do you come here often?”

Well, continue with the text. The main thing is to carefully monitor the girl’s reaction. Don't be upset if she doesn't support the conversation. This happens even among real ladies' men. But they are still with girls, do you know why? Then they try again and again. There are a lot of girls in the club, and this is not the last time you’ve been here.

on the street

Well, we have come to our Everest. On the street you will have to show all your charm (if you don’t have it, draw it, and what’s left?). The difference from all previous methods is that it is quite difficult to start talking on the street for a normal reason, when the girl herself doesn’t mind. After all, a lady may be in a hurry somewhere, for example, to work, to see her boyfriend (it’s generally fun). Or she just doesn’t like meeting people on the street, even if you’re Tom Cruise, she’s cool with it. But what can you do if the girl is beautiful, sweet in appearance, and now she will pass by and you will never see her again... it’s better to take a risk than to regret it later. What do you have to lose? The beauty of such an acquaintance is that this is not a club or a cafe, where all the attention of others will be directed to you. Nobody cares on the street, people fly by, not noticing anything around them. Including your attempts, so be bold.

Now let's get down to business.

If possible, try to choose a place to meet where there will be fewer people. Then you won’t worry so much about “everyone is watching.” And if such a place is not foreseen - the beauty simply passed by you, and there is practically no time to think, then take a deep breath and move forward. Don’t motivate yourself in any way, don’t think about anything at all, just do it. In this case, you won’t even have time to get scared.

On the street, as in all previous examples, it is important to have several prepared phrases to start a conversation. Know how to develop a conversation if a girl supports the conversation. And the most important thing is to take her contacts. This could be a phone number or “First Name-Last Name” to find her on social networks.

As for the first point, scripts can be either universal or specially selected for a particular place or situation. For example, in a store you can do this:

“Girl, I’m choosing sweets for my mom’s birthday, but I don’t understand them, can you recommend something?...Thank you, by the way, I’m (your name).”

On the street you can always ask how to get to some place... the girl will answer you (the main place you choose is one that she probably should know), smile at her, give her a compliment:

I think you understand the general principle - first you need a short introduction so that the girl starts communicating with you, and then say your name. Try not to tense up too much at this moment and look charming or something...smile (just not like a maniac).

Then you will feel whether the girl is in the mood to chat with you for at least another minute or not. If he’s trying to get away from you quickly, then forget it, it happens on the street, don’t take it personally. The main thing is that you approached and weren’t scared, got a new experience, and next time you’ll definitely be lucky. And if the girl smiles or at least answers politely, then continue the conversation:

“You probably live somewhere around here? And I studied here not far away. Where did you study?”

The point is to get the girl to talk. Find out something about her, offer to accompany her and keep asking questions. If you can start a pleasant, friendly conversation, that's very good. Just don’t delay if you see that the girl needs to go about her business:

“Okay, I’ve already taken up a lot of your time, maybe we’ll meet again, I’ll buy you coffee? Will you tell me your number?"

You are very polite and unobtrusive, in this situation you definitely have a chance. After all, it’s guys who meet girls, not girls who meet guys...get it? They choose among those who are suitable...and how many daredevils muster up the courage to meet people on the street? Exactly…

You don’t have to ask for your number or invite you for coffee if you see that it’s too early and the girl most likely won’t agree. Then your task is to find out her name, where she studied and something related to age - this could be age itself, although not all girls like such questions... perhaps ask:

“What year did you graduate from school (university)?”

"What is your zodiac sign?"

Congratulations, you now know approximately her birth month (if she answered the question honestly). You may ask why is this necessary? The answer is to search on social networks. Especially in VKontakte, where young girls are most often registered. Choose your name, gender, city, place of study, month of birth or year... and voila. Get several pages and one of them is your sweetheart. Then you can continue communication online, gain trust and eventually invite you on a date.

in contact with

Well, since we are talking about social networks, and this is the 21st century, we need to take advantage of new opportunities. Now every second person, not counting every first person, is on social networks, and dating sites are becoming a thing of the past. Therefore, if you intend to meet a girl, open VKontakte, Facebook, Odnoklassniki and go for it.

You need to start with a search. If you are a student, then you already know how to use the system; if you are older and feel a little awe of the “miracle of technology,” then I will give some tips. Most of the Russian-speaking audience is in contact. The best place to search (this is important) is there. Therefore, create a page on this social network, fill it with the necessary information about you, upload beautiful photos, if there are none, take them (ask your friends to take a photo of you or order a photo session).

This is very important, because in social networks are greeted by their avatar. Let's go further - there should be live activity on your page. This means more than 100 friends (add them all if necessary), a lot of music and videos, more than 20 posts on the wall. Why is this necessary, you ask? But because when you want to add a beautiful girl as a friend, she will look at you and your page and if she doesn’t see everything that we just discussed, she may think that the page is not real and was created to wind up friends, advertising, etc. .

Once you have sorted out the preparation, let's go to the search. In the filter, select your city, desired gender, age and scroll down. The girls at the top of the list should not interest you, they are usually stars who do not communicate with anyone at all. As soon as you find a beautiful nymph, feel free to add her as a friend, and be sure to write something, for example:

“Hi, let’s introduce ourselves, I’m (your name).”

There’s no need to even look for reasons here. Just don’t think that they will answer you right away. It’s good if one out of ten answers and adds you as a friend. But the trick is that in half an hour you can write to two dozen girls. Do you feel what an unplowed field has opened up for you?)

Then ask innocent questions about where she goes to school, what her hobbies are, what kind of movies she likes. Tell us about yourself too. I’m sure that over time you will have an initial script for a conversation, which will already flow into ordinary friendly communication. And when you become friends, you can safely invite them to meet, go to the cinema or drink coffee.

The main thing here is not to be upset if you are refused. Believe me, in a minute you will find another girl, no less beautiful, but more pleasant in conversation. And with experience, the excitement will completely go away, and your list of female contacts will become indecently large.

Well, that's all. It seems nothing complicated, the main thing is to gather your courage and do it. Don't try to reinvent the wheel and read about mega-cool pickup techniques and then show off in front of a girl. This will only push her away. Your courage to approach already plays a big role. Be sincere, smile, show respect and show your upbringing. Good luck!

What is this - an even greater rapprochement and a trusting gesture or, on the contrary, a test, and perhaps even a bride-to-be?

To the question of why a guy introduces a girl to his friends, there is probably no simple and unambiguous answer. After all, all people are very different. Yes, and friends are different. There are male friendships for many years, there is cooperation, as they say, on company affairs, that is, a purely working relationship, and there are also superficial friendly connections - to chat, laugh. So it’s important to consider who exactly your boyfriend wants to introduce you to. The reasons for potential acquaintance with your loved one’s friends will depend on the answer to the question posed. So, let's figure out together why a guy introduces a girl to his friends.

1. Close friends. If your boyfriend wants to introduce you to his close friend (and maybe even two, because there usually aren’t many truly close friends), then this most likely indicates the seriousness of his intentions towards you. Such an acquaintance, as it were, introduces you to the circle of people close to the man. Undoubtedly, this is a gesture of trust towards you. Your loved one seems to be saying: “You have become very close to me, I value you no less than my old and trusted friends, I am ready to trust you”!

Meeting a circle of close friends can lead to a variety of consequences. A successful acquaintance and the pleasant impression you make will undoubtedly raise your status in the eyes of your boyfriend. After all, this will speak in his favor and will only confirm the correctness of his choice. Of course, the opinions of close friends are important to him. In addition, the positive result of such an acquaintance will, without a doubt, affect your friendly contacts. Perhaps now you will be “family friends” with one of your boyfriend’s friends, communicate closely, go on visits, etc. Accordingly, this expands your circle of acquaintances, and, perhaps, will somehow affect your lifestyle.

It’s rare, but it happens that, on the contrary, the man’s inner circle didn’t quite like the girl, but he continues to date her. If this happens to you, then he will have to choose - either old friendships or his beloved. As a rule, in such a situation the strength of feelings towards the girl is tested. A guy will only stay with you if he is seriously passionate and does not intend to change his plans even for the sake of close friends.

Usually, a man’s close friends are unanimous with him on the main issues. It’s not for nothing that they have maintained close, trusting relationships for many years; it’s not for nothing that they are ready to help each other, if necessary, they are ready to rely on each other. They have a lot in common, and besides, they trust their friend’s choice.

1. Colleagues. Usually a guy introduces this category of friends when these colleagues are also friends. Or when you and your loved one work in the same company, and your relationship with him is just taking on the character of a romance. In this case, you appear before your work colleagues as if in a new status.

In the first case, there may be a variety of intentions behind the desire to introduce you. It could also be a desire to show off one’s chosen one in front of colleagues (to brag about her beauty, charm). In this way, a man can raise his rating among his colleagues (here’s what kind of girl I have!) Overall, this is neither good nor bad. In principle, the desire to demonstrate one’s masculine status and pride in one’s chosen one is quite understandable. No one has yet canceled male pride, and, accordingly, your boyfriend may simply be pleased to hear flattering reviews about you from his colleagues. But if a guy shows off his girlfriend to his colleagues just to assert himself, he undoubtedly loses in your eyes. He probably has nothing else to boast about at all, and this is not the best option. Take a closer look at your companion!

In the second case, your man simply wants to open up your relationship to everyone. Here, when a guy introduces a girl again, he seems to present you to his colleagues in a new status. This can be done in a slightly humorous tone, or quite seriously. In this case, it is worth supporting the man’s intention. After all, you yourself are undoubtedly interested in your two colleagues being perceived as a couple. So play along with your loved one if he decided to talk about it in a joking tone!

1. Buddies. Perhaps this is the only option where you may have more or less justified wariness regarding the purpose of dating. It’s good if a guy wants to introduce you to his friends in order to maintain a relationship, chat, etc. But it happens that he introduces a girl to his friends, for example, in order to gossip about you together, or even laugh. Another bad option is making acquaintances with the goal of showing off you in order to increase your status among your friends (we talked about almost the same thing in relation to meeting colleagues).

It happens that behind a guy’s desire to introduce a girl to his friends is the intention not to show her to them, but just the opposite. Often a young man just wants to show you how he lives and who he communicates with. Perhaps he is the one bragging about his friends to you! Support him, tell him that you really liked his company. Find common topics for conversation, enter their circle. Moreover, if it does not strongly contradict your own views on life. Remember that it is much worse when a guy does not want to introduce a girl to his surroundings. This means that either he is embarrassed by you, or he is too jealous and therefore hides you even from his friends, or he is hiding something from you (or someone else). Perhaps he is playing a double game? Don't mess with people like that! A relationship with him will not bring you happiness, and will take a lot of energy and time. Look for someone who will trust you with their interests and their friends, with whom, perhaps, you will not be sorry to happily live your whole life. And this, you see, is a lot!

You and your girlfriend have been dating for almost a year, but she still knows your friends only by name, and even then not all of them, and even then she doesn’t remember their faces? This unfortunate misunderstanding must be corrected. So, after all, it will be better for everyone - and you will calmly date both the girl and your friends, with everyone at once, and your friends will rejoice at how beautiful and smart your other half is, and your girl will once again be convinced that you are serious at her expense. How to introduce her to friends?

Preparation

Since this is not the first day you have been dating your beloved, you should already have an idea of ​​her preferences, interests, and hobbies. And you have known your friends for more than one year, so everything is clear here too. By comparing the facts, you can understand whether your significant other will quickly join the team and become friends with your company or not. If you have any special rules in your group of friends, you should inform your loved one so that she knows and also follows them.

Selecting a location

It is better to choose a place to meet a girl and your friends so that everyone feels comfortable. Your friends will probably feel comfortable in a sports bar, but a girl is unlikely to feel comfortable there. The atmosphere should be casual so that everyone is relaxed and free to speak. When no one feels inconvenienced, acquaintance occurs by itself, immediately developing into a lively conversation.

Take your time

At all costs, you should not introduce your girlfriend to friends if you think that she will not fit into your company or her friends will receive her coolly. Hold off on getting to know each other for now, otherwise the unsuccessful situation will make you nervous, and this nervousness will be transmitted to others.

Know how to interrupt communication in time

The process of introducing your significant other to the company you work with may follow a different scenario from the one you outlined in your head. If something goes wrong, politely and carefully give a reason to end the conversation.

Rely on your own opinion first.

Of course, you need to listen to close friends, but if they claim that your current girlfriend is not a match for you at all, you should not immediately take these words on faith. At the end of the day, it's your relationship and your opinion is decisive.