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The PARY technique is intended to study the attitude of parents (primarily mothers) to different aspects of family life (family role). Its authors are American psychologists E. S. Shafer and R. K. Bell. This technique was widely used abroad. In our country, it was adapted by T. V. Neshcheret, candidate of psychological sciences, and is often used in research.

The methodology identifies 23 parameters relating to different aspects of the parents’ relationship to the child and life in the family. Of these, 8 signs describe the attitude of parents to family roles, and15 concern parent-child relationships. These 15 signs are divided into three subgroups:

1. optimal emotional contact;
2. excessive emotional distance with the child;
3. excessive concentration on the child.

Questionnaire scales. Attitude to family roles

Attitudes are described using 8 scale parameters (their numbers on the questionnaire: 3, 5, 7, 11, 13, 17, 19, 23):

• — limitation of a woman’s interests within the framework of the family, caring exclusively about the family (3);
• — a feeling of self-sacrifice in the role of a mother (5);
• — family conflicts (7);
• - super-authority of parents (11);
• — dissatisfaction with the role of the housewife (13);
• — “indifference” of the husband, his lack of involvement in family affairs (17);
• - family dominance (19);
• — dependence and lack of independence of the mother (23).

Attitude of parents to child

1. Optimal emotional contactconsists of 4 parameters (their numbers according to the questionnaire: 1, 14, 15, 21):
   • - encouraging verbal manifestations, verbalizations (1);
   • — partnerships (14);
   • — development of child activity (15);
   • - equalizing relationship between parent and child (21).
2. Excessive emotional distance with the childconsists of 3 parameters (their numbers according to the questionnaire: 8, 9, 16):
   • - irritability and short temper (8);
   • — severity, excessive severity (9);
   • - avoidance of contact with the child (16).
3. Excessive concentration on the child, 8 parameters are described (their numbers according to the questionnaire: 2, 4, 6, 10, 12, 18, 20, 22):
   • — excessive care, establishing relationships of dependence (2);
   • — overcoming resistance, suppression of will (4);
   • — creating security, fear of offending (6);
   • — exclusion of extra-family influences (10);
   • — suppression of aggressiveness (12);
   • — suppression of sexuality (18);
   • — excessive interference in the child’s world (20);
   • - the desire to accelerate the development of the child (22).

Instructions

Here are questions that will help you find out what parents think about raising children. There are no right or wrong answers here, since everyone is right in relation to their own views. Try to answer accurately and truthfully.

Some questions may seem the same to you. However, it is not. There are questions that are similar, but not the same. This was done in order to capture possible, even small differences in views on raising children.

It will take approximately 20 minutes to fill out the questionnaire. Don’t think about your answer for a long time, answer quickly, try to give the first answer that comes to your mind.

Letters are placed next to each position A a b B, you need to choose them depending on your conviction in the correctness of this position:

• A - if you fully agree with this provision;
• a - if you rather agree with this provision than disagree;
• b - if you disagree with this provision rather than agree;
• B - if you completely disagree with this provision.

Tell us about yourself:

Age_

Floor_

Education_

Profession_

Number and age of children_

Questionnaire text

Assigning points for answers: A - 4 points, a - 3 points, 6-2 points, B - 1 point.

Analysis of the results of the technique

Each parameter is measured using 5 judgments, balanced in terms of measuring capabilities and semantic content. The entire methodology consists of 23 scales and 115 judgments.

The judgments are arranged in a certain order, and the respondent must express his attitude towards them in the form of active or partial agreement or disagreement. The procedure for calculating points for each scale is contained in the methodology key. Since the subject can choose one of four answers, he receives from 1 to 4 points.

Thus, the maximum expression of the parameter is 20 points (five questions of 4 points each), the minimum is 5 points. Then 17, 18, 19, 20 points will be considered high marks, and 8, 7, 6, 5 points will be considered low. When processing and interpreting the results, it makes sense to analyze only the achievement of high or low marks by the subject.

Key to the PARY questionnaire

The authors of the PARI (parental attitude research instrument) questionnaire are E. Schaefer and K. Bell. The initial testing of the methodology on a Russian-speaking sample was carried out by candidate of psychological sciences T.V. Neshcheret in 1980. Subsequently, work on testing and adapting the methodology to the conditions of Russian-speaking culture was carried out by T. V. Arkhireeva (Arkhireeva T. V., 2002).
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The questionnaire “Measuring Parental Attitudes and Reactions” is intended to study the attitude of parents (primarily mothers) towards children in general, as well as towards various aspects of family life (family role). The technique allows you to assess the specifics of intrafamily relationships and the peculiarities of the organization of family life.
Description of the technique
The questionnaire “Measuring Parental Attitudes and Reactions” consists of 115 judgments relating to family life and raising children. The methodology includes 23 scales (signs) relating to various aspects of the parents’ attitude towards the child and life in the family. Each scale includes 5 statements, which are arranged in a certain sequence: judgments belonging to the same scale are repeated every 23 points. For example, scale No. 1 “Verbalization” (giving the child the opportunity to speak) includes statements with the following numbers: 1, 24, 47, 70, 93, etc. (see form). The respondent must express his attitude towards them in the form of complete or partial agreement or disagreement.
Scales (signs) of the questionnaire

3. Dependence on the family (limiting the mother to the role of housewife).
4. Suppression of the child's will.
5. “Sacrifice” of parents.
6. Fear of offending (fear of harming the child).
7. Marital conflicts.
8. Strictness of parents.

11. Superauthority of parents (encouraging the child’s dependence on parents).
12. Suppressing the child’s aggressiveness.

16. Avoidance of conflict (avoidance of communication with the child).
17. Indifference of the husband (inattentiveness of the husband to his wife).
18. Suppression of a child’s sexuality.
19. Mother's dominance.

22. The desire to accelerate the development of the child.
23. Lack of independence of the mother (the need for outside help in raising the child).
Thus, 8 trait scales describe attitudes towards the family role, 115 relate to child-parent relationships, divided into 3 groups:
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(1) optimal emotional contact, (2) excessive emotional distance with the child, (3) excessive concentration on the child.
1. Attitude to the family role is described using 8 signs (their numbers in the questionnaire are 3, 5, 7, 11, 13,17, 19, 23): dependence on the family (limiting the mother to the role of mistress of the house); “sacrifice” of parents; marital conflicts; super-authority of parents (encouraging the child’s dependence on parents); dissatisfaction with the role of the housewife (“martyrdom” of parents); husband's indifference (husband's inattention to his wife); mother's dominance; lack of independence of the mother (the need for outside help in raising the child).
2. Parents' attitude towards the child:
? optimal emotional contact is determined in accordance with the severity of 4 signs (their numbers on the questionnaire are 1, 14,15, 21): verbalization (giving the child the opportunity to speak); partnerships (equality between parents and child); encouraging child activity; companionship between parents and children;
? excessive emotional distance with a child includes 3 signs (their numbers on the questionnaire are 8, 9, 16): parents’ strictness; irritability of parents; avoidance of conflict (avoidance of communication with the child);
? excessive concentration on the child is described by 8 signs (their numbers on the questionnaire are 2, 4, 6, 10, 12, 18, 20, 22): excessive care (protecting the child from difficulties); suppression of the child's will; fear of offending (fear of harming the child); exclusion of extra-family influences (child’s dependence on mother); suppressing the child’s aggressiveness; suppression of the child's sexuality; parental intrusiveness, interference in the child’s world; desire to accelerate the development of the child.
To evaluate the statements of the questionnaire, parents are provided with a special form. The answer form is designed in such a way that the points of each scale of the questionnaire are on one line, for example: the line of the form includes numbers 1, 24, 47, 70, 93, which are points of the first scale of the questionnaire “Verbalization (giving the child the opportunity to speak out).”
Instructions: “Read the statements given below and rate each one as follows:
A - if you completely agree with this provision;
a - if you agree with this provision rather than disagree;
b - if you rather disagree with this provision than agree;
B - if you completely disagree with this provision.
There are no right or wrong answers here. You answer according to your opinion. It is very important that you answer all questions. Many of the statements will appear similar, but they are all necessary to capture subtle differences in views on parenting.
Don’t think about your answer for a long time, answer quickly, try to give the first answer that comes to your mind.”
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Questionnaire text
1. If children consider their views to be correct, they may not agree with the views of their parents.
2. A good mother should protect her children even from small difficulties and insults.
3. For a good mother, home and family are the most important things in life.
4. Some children are so bad that for their own good they need to be taught to fear adults.
5. Children should be aware that their parents do a lot for them.
6. A small child should always be held firmly while washing to prevent him from falling.
7. People who think that there can be no misunderstandings in a good family do not know life.
8. When a child grows up, he will thank his parents for their strict upbringing.
9. Staying with a child all day can lead to nervous exhaustion.
10. It is better if the child does not think about whether his parents’ views are correct.
11. Parents must instill in their children complete confidence in themselves.
12. A child should be taught to avoid fighting, regardless of the circumstances.
13. The worst thing for a mother who does housework is the feeling that it is not easy for her to free herself from her responsibilities.
14. It is easier for parents to adapt to their children than vice versa.
15. A child must learn many necessary things in life, and therefore he should not be allowed to waste valuable time.
16. If you agree once that a child is being sarcastic, he will do it all the time.
17. If fathers did not interfere in raising children, mothers would cope better with their children.
18. There is no need to talk about gender issues in the presence of a child.
19. If the mother did not manage the house, husband and children, everything would happen less organized.
20. A mother should do everything to know what her children are thinking about.
21. If parents were more interested in the affairs of their children, the children would be better and happier.
22. Most children should be able to independently cope with physiological needs from the age of 15 months.
23. The most difficult thing for a young mother is to remain alone in the first years of raising a child.
24. We must encourage children to express their opinions about life in the family, even if they believe that life in the family is wrong.
25. A mother should do everything to protect her child from the disappointments that life brings.
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26. Women who lead a carefree life are not very good mothers.
27. It is imperative to eradicate manifestations of nascent malice in children.
28. A mother must sacrifice her happiness for the happiness of her child.
29. All young mothers are afraid of their inexperience in handling a child.
30. Spouses should argue from time to time to prove their rights.
31. Strict discipline towards a child develops strong character in him.
32. Mothers are often so tormented by the presence of their children that it seems to them that they cannot be with them for a minute more.
33. Parents should not appear in a bad light to their children.
34. A child should respect his parents more than others.
35. A child should always seek help from parents or teachers instead of settling their misunderstandings by fighting.
36. Constantly staying with children convinces the mother that her educational capabilities are less than her skills and abilities (she could, but...).
37. Parents must win the favor of their children through their actions.
38. Children who do not try their hand at achieving success should know that they may encounter failures later in life.
39. Parents who talk with a child about his problems should know that it is better to leave the child alone and not get involved in his affairs.
40. Husbands, if they do not want to be selfish, should take part in family life.
41. Girls and boys should not be allowed to see each other naked.
42. If the wife is sufficiently prepared to solve problems independently, then this is better for both the children and the husband.
43. A child should not have secrets from his parents.
44. If it is your custom that children tell you jokes, and you tell them, then many issues can be resolved calmly and without conflicts.
45. If you teach a child to walk early, this has a beneficial effect on his development.
46. ​​It is not good when a mother alone overcomes all the difficulties associated with caring for and raising a child.
47. A child should have his own views and the opportunity to express them freely.
48. We must protect the child from hard work.
49. A woman must choose between housework and entertainment.
50. A smart father should teach his child to respect his superiors.
51. Very few women receive gratitude from their children for the work spent on raising them.
52. If a child is in trouble, in any case the mother always feels
guilty.
53. Young spouses, despite the strength of their feelings, always have disagreements that cause irritation.
54. Children who are taught respect for norms of behavior become good, stable and respected people.
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55. It rarely happens that a mother who spends all day with her child manages to be affectionate and calm.
56. Children should not learn outside the home anything that contradicts the views of their parents.
57. Children should know that there are no wiser people than their parents.
58. There is no excuse for a child who hits another child.
59. Young mothers suffer more from their confinement at home than from any other reason.
60. Forcing children to refuse and adapt is a bad method of education.
61. Parents should teach their children to find something to do and not waste free time.
62. Children torment their parents with minor problems if they get used to it from the very beginning.
63. When a mother poorly fulfills her responsibilities towards her children, this probably means that the father does not fulfill his responsibilities to support the family.
64. Children's games with sexual content can lead children to sexual crimes.
65. Only the mother should plan, since only she knows how to run a household. ,
66. An attentive mother should know what her child is thinking about.
67. Parents who listen with approval to their children's frank statements about their experiences on dates, social gatherings, dances, etc., help them in faster social development.
68. The faster the connection between children and family weakens, the faster children will learn to solve their problems.
69. A smart mother does everything possible to ensure that the child is in good conditions before and after birth.
70. Children should take part in solving important family issues.
71. Parents should know what to do to prevent their children from getting into difficult situations.
72. Too many women forget that their proper place is home.
73. Children need maternal care, which they sometimes lack.
74. Children should be more caring and grateful to their mother for the work invested in them.
75. Most mothers are afraid to torture their child by giving him small tasks.
76. There are many issues in family life that cannot be resolved through calm discussion.
77. Most children should be brought up more strictly than is actually the case.
78. Raising children is hard, nervous work.
79. Children should not doubt the way their parents think.
80. Children should respect their parents more than anyone else.
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81. Children should not be encouraged to engage in boxing and wrestling, as this can lead to serious body disorders and other problems.
82. One of the bad things is that the mother, as a rule, does not have free time for her favorite activities.
83. Parents should consider their children equal to themselves in all matters of life.
84. When a child does what he is obliged to do, he is on the right path and will be happy.
85. We must leave a child who is sad alone and not deal with him.
86. The greatest desire of any mother is to be understood by her husband.
87. One of the most difficult moments in raising children is sexual problems.
88. If the mother runs the house and takes care of everything, the whole family feels good.
89. Since the child is part of the mother, she has the right to know everything about his life.
90. Children who are allowed to joke and laugh with their parents are more likely to accept their advice.
91. Parents should make every effort to teach their child to cope with physiological needs as early as possible.
92. Most women need more time to rest after giving birth than they are actually given.
93. A child should have confidence that he will not be punished if he trusts his parents with his problems.
94. A child does not need to be taught hard work at home so that he does not lose the desire for any work.
95. For a good mother, communication with her own family is enough.
96. Sometimes parents are forced to act against the will of the child.
97. Mothers sacrifice everything for the good of their children.
98. The most important concern of a mother is the well-being and safety of the child.
99. It is natural that two people with opposing views in a marriage quarrel.
100. Raising children with strict discipline makes them happier.
101. Naturally, a mother “goes crazy” if her children are selfish and very demanding.
102. A child should never listen to criticism about his parents.
103. The first duty of children is trust in their parents.
104. Parents, as a rule, prefer calm children to brawlers.
105. A young mother feels unhappy because she knows that many things she would like to have are not available to her.
106. There is no reason why parents should have more rights and privileges than children.
107. The sooner a child understands that there is no point in wasting time, the better for him.
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108. Children do everything possible to interest their parents in their problems.
109. Few men understand that the mother of their child also needs joy in life.
110. There is something wrong with a child if he asks a lot about sexual matters.
111. When getting married, a woman must be aware that she will be forced to manage family affairs.
112. It is the mother’s duty to know the secret thoughts of the child.
113. If you include a child in household chores, he becomes more connected with his parents and more easily trusts them with his problems.
114. It is necessary to stop breastfeeding and bottle-feeding the child as early as possible (teach the child to feed “independently”).
115. You cannot demand too much responsibility from a mother towards her children.
Form
FULL NAME. _
Age.
"Education
Experience in family life ____
Number and age of children

Methods for diagnosing child-parent relationships

Parental Attitude Questionnaire
(A.Ya.Varga, V.V.Stolin)

The Parental Attitude Questionnaire (PAT) is a psychodiagnostic tool aimed at identifying parental attitudes among people seeking psychological help on raising children and communicating with them. Parental attitude is understood as a system of various feelings towards the child, behavioral stereotypes practiced in communication with him, peculiarities of perception and understanding of the child’s personality, his actions.

Questionnaire structure

The questionnaire consists of 5 scales:

1. "Acceptance-rejection." The scale reflects the integral emotional attitude towards the child. The content of one pole of the scale: the parent likes the child for who he is. The parent respects the child’s individuality and sympathizes with him. The parent strives to spend a lot of time with the child and approves of his interests and plans. At the other end of the scale; the parent perceives his child as bad, unadapted, unsuccessful. It seems to him that the child will not succeed in life because of low abilities, small intelligence, and bad inclinations. For the most part, the parent feels anger, annoyance, irritation, and resentment towards the child. He doesn't trust or respect the child.

2. “Cooperation” is a socially desirable image of parental attitude. In terms of content, this scale is revealed as follows: the parent is interested in the child’s affairs and plans, tries to help the child in everything, and sympathizes with him. The parent highly appreciates the child’s intellectual and creative abilities and feels a sense of pride in him. He encourages the child’s initiative and independence, and strives to be on an equal footing with him. The parent trusts the child and tries to take his point of view on controversial issues.

3. “Symbiosis” - the scale reflects the interpersonal distance in communication with the child. With high scores on this scale, we can assume that the parent is striving for a symbiotic relationship with the child. In essence, this tendency is described as follows: the parent feels like one with the child, strives to satisfy all the needs of the child, to protect him from the difficulties and troubles of life. The parent constantly feels worried about the child; the child seems small and defenseless to him. The parent’s anxiety increases when the child begins to become autonomous due to circumstances, since the parent never gives the child independence of his own free will.

4. “Authoritarian hypersocialization” - reflects the form and direction of control over the child’s behavior. With a high score on this scale and the parental attitude of this parent, authoritarianism is clearly visible. The parent demands unconditional obedience and discipline from the child. He tries to impose his will on the child in everything, unable to take his point of view. For manifestations of self-will, the child is severely punished. The parent closely monitors the child’s social achievements, his individual characteristics, habits, thoughts, and feelings.

5. “Little loser” - reflects the characteristics of the parent’s perception and understanding of the child. With high values ​​on this scale, the parent’s parental attitude tends to infantilize the child and attribute personal and social failure to him. The parent sees the child as younger than his actual age. The interests, hobbies, thoughts and feelings of the child seem childish and frivolous to the parent. The child seems ill-adapted, unsuccessful, and open to bad influences. The parent does not trust his child and is annoyed at his lack of success and ineptitude. In this regard, the parent tries to protect the child from the difficulties of life and strictly control his actions.

Questionnaire text

1. I always sympathize with my child.

2. I consider it my duty to know everything that my child thinks.

3. I respect my child.

4. It seems to me that my child's behavior deviates significantly from the norm.

5. It is necessary to keep the child away from real life problems longer if they traumatize him.

6. I have a feeling of affection for the child.

7. Good parents protect their child from the difficulties of life.

8. My child is often unpleasant to me.

9. I always try to help my child.

10. There are times when bullying a child brings him great benefit.

11. I feel annoyed with my child.

12. My child will not achieve anything in life.

13. It seems to me that children are making fun of my child.

14. My child often commits actions that, apart from contempt, are worth nothing.

15. For his age, my child is a little immature.

16. My child behaves badly on purpose to annoy me.

17. My child absorbs everything bad like a sponge.

18. It is difficult to teach my child good manners no matter how hard I try.

19. A child should be kept within strict limits, then he will grow into a decent person.

20. I love it when my child’s friends come to our house.

21. I take part in my child.

22. Everything bad “sticks” to my child.

23. My child will not succeed in life.

24. When people talk about children in a group of friends, I am a little ashamed that my child is not as smart and capable as I would like.

25. I feel sorry for my child.

26. When I compare my child with peers, they seem more mature to me both in behavior and judgment.

27. I enjoy spending all my free time with my child.

28. I often regret that my child grows and matures, and I remember him with tenderness when he was little.

29. I often catch myself being hostile towards my child.

30. I dream that my child will achieve everything that I failed in life.

31. Parents should adapt to the child, and not just demand it from him.

32. I try to fulfill all my child’s requests.

33. When making family decisions, the child’s opinion should be taken into account.

34. I am very interested in the life of my child.

35. In a conflict with a child, I can often admit that he is right in his own way.

36. Children learn early that parents can make mistakes.

37. I always take my child into account.

38. I have friendly feelings towards my child.

39. The main reason for my child’s whims is selfishness, stubbornness and laziness.

40. It is impossible to have a normal rest if you spend your vacation with a child.

41. The most important thing is that the child has a calm and carefree childhood.

42. Sometimes it seems to me that my child is not capable of anything good.

43. I share my child’s hobbies.

44. My child can piss off anyone.

45. I understand my child’s distress.

46. ​​My child often annoys me.

47. Raising a child is a complete hassle.

48. Strict discipline in childhood develops strong character.

49. I don't trust my child.

50. Children thank you later for strict upbringing.

51. Sometimes it seems to me that I hate my child.

52. My child has more shortcomings than advantages.

53. I share the interests of my child.

54. My child is not able to do anything on his own, and if he does, it will definitely be wrong.

55. My child will grow up unadapted to life.

56. I like my child the way he is.

57. I carefully monitor my child’s health.

58. I often admire my child.

59. A child should not have secrets from his parents.

60. I don’t have a high opinion of my child’s abilities and I don’t hide it from him.

61. It is very desirable for a child to be friends with those children who his parents like.

Keys to the questionnaire

• Acceptance-rejection: 3, 4, 8, 10, 12, 14, 15, 16, 18, 20, 24, 26, 27, 29, 37, 38, 39, 40, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 49, 52, 53, 55, 56, 60.
• Image of social desirability of behavior: 6, 9, 21, 25, 31, 34, 35, 36.
• Symbiosis: 1, 5, 7, 28, 32, 41, 58.
• Authoritarian hypersocialization: 2, 19, 30,48, 50, 57, 59.
• "Little Loser": 9, 11, 13, 17, 22, 28, 54, 61.

Procedure for calculating test scores

When calculating test scores for all scales, the answer “true” is taken into account. A high test score on the corresponding scales is interpreted as:
- rejection,
- social desirability,
- symbiosis,
- hypersocialization,
- infantilization (disability).
Test norms are carried out in the form of tables of percentile ranks of test scores on the corresponding scales = 160

1 scale: "acceptance-rejection"

Scale

Scale

Scale

Scale

PARI Method, Parental Attitudes Questionnaire

One of the most important areas of work for a practical psychologist is working with the family (spouses, parents, family and children). The key point in this work is obtaining complete and objective information. In Russian psychology, methods for collecting information about inter-spousal relationships are most fully presented and less meaningful - about parent-child relationships. In order to fill this gap, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with the PARI methodology - this is family life through the eyes of the mother.
The PARI (parental attitude research instrument) technique is designed to study the attitude of parents (primarily mothers) to different aspects of family life (family role). The authors are American psychologists E.S. Schaefer and R.K. Bell. This technique was widely used in Poland (Rembowski) and Czechoslovakia (Kotaskova). Adapted in our country by candidate of psychological sciences T.V. Nesheret.
The methodology identifies 23 aspect-signs relating to different aspects of the parents’ relationship to the child and life in the family. Of these, 8 characteristics describe attitudes toward the family role and 15 relate to parent-child relationships. These 15 signs are divided into the following 3 groups: 1 - optimal emotional contact, 2 - excessive emotional distance with the child, 3 - excessive concentration on the child. These scales look like this:

• Attitude to family role
  Described using 8 signs, their numbers in the questionnaire are 3, 5, 7, 11, 13, 17, 19, 23:
  - limitation of a woman’s interests within the framework of the family, caring exclusively about the family (3);
  - a feeling of self-sacrifice in the role of a mother (5);
  - family conflicts (7);
  - super-authority of parents (11);
  - dissatisfaction with the role of the housewife (13);
  - “indifference” of the husband, his lack of involvement in family affairs (17);
  - mother's dominance (19);
  - dependence and lack of independence of the mother (23).
• Attitude of parents to child
  1. Optimal emotional contact (consists of 4 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 1, 14, 15, 21);
  - stimulation of verbal manifestations, verbalization (1);
  - partnerships (14);
  - development of child activity (15);
  - equalizing relationship between parents and child (21).
  2. Excessive emotional distance with the child (consists of 3 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 8, 9, 16):
  - irritability, short temper (8);
  - severity, excessive severity (9);
  - avoidance of contact with the child (16).
  3. Excessive concentration on the child (described by 8 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 2, 4, 6, 10, 12, 18, 20, 22):
  - excessive care, establishment of dependent relationships (2);
  - overcoming resistance, suppression of will (4);
  - creating security, fear of offending (6);
  - exclusion of extra-family influences (10);
  - suppression of aggressiveness (12);
  - suppression of sexuality (18);
  - excessive interference in the child’s world (20);
  - desire to accelerate the development of the child (22).

Each attribute is measured using 5 judgments, balanced in terms of measuring ability and semantic content. The entire methodology consists of 115 judgments. Judgments are arranged in a certain sequence, and the respondent must express an attitude towards them in the form of active or partial agreement or disagreement.

Instructions: Here are questions that will help you find out what parents think about raising children. There are no right or wrong answers here, because... everyone is right in relation to their own views. Try to answer accurately and truthfully.
Some questions may seem the same to you. However, it is not. There are questions that are similar, but not the same. This was done in order to capture possible, even small differences in views on raising children.
The questionnaire will take approximately 20 minutes to complete. Don't think about your answer for a long time, answer quickly, trying to give the first answer that comes to your mind. Use the form to answer.
Next to each position are the letters A a b B; you need to choose them depending on your belief in the correctness of the given sentence:
A - complete agreement;
a - rather agreement than disagreement;
b - rather disagreement than agreement;
B - complete disagreement.

Questions

1. If children consider their views to be correct, they may not agree with the views of their parents.

2. A good mother should protect her children even from small difficulties and insults.

3. For a good mother, home and family are the most important things in life.

4. Some children are so bad that for their own good they need to be taught to fear adults.

5. Children should be aware that their parents do a lot for them.

6. A small child should always be held firmly while washing to prevent him from falling.

7. People who think that there can be no misunderstandings in a good family do not know life.

8. When a child grows up, he will thank his parents for their strict upbringing.

9. Staying with a child all day can lead to nervous exhaustion.

10. It is better if the child does not think about whether his parents’ views are correct.

11. Parents must instill in their children complete confidence in themselves.

12. A child should be taught to avoid fighting, regardless of the circumstances.

13. The worst thing for a mother who does housework is the feeling that it is not easy for her to free herself from her responsibilities.

14. It is easier for parents to adapt to their children than vice versa.

15. A child must learn many necessary things in life, so he should not be allowed to waste valuable time.

16. If you agree once that a child is being sarcastic, he will do it all the time.

17. If fathers did not interfere in raising children, mothers would cope better with their children.

18. There is no need to talk about gender issues in the presence of a child.

19. If the mother did not manage the house, husband and children, everything would happen less organized.

20. A mother should do everything to know what her children are thinking about.

21. If parents were more interested in the affairs of their children, the children would be better and happier.

22. Most children should be able to independently cope with physiological needs from the age of 15 months.

23. The most difficult thing for a young mother is to remain alone in the first years of raising a child.

24. We must encourage children to express their opinions about life in the family, even if they believe that life in the family is wrong.

25. A mother should do everything to protect her child from the disappointments that life brings.

26. Women who lead a carefree life are not very good mothers.

27. It is imperative to eradicate manifestations of nascent malice in children.

28. A mother must sacrifice her happiness for the happiness of her child.

29. All young mothers are afraid of their inexperience in handling a child.

30. Spouses should argue from time to time to prove their rights.

31. Strict discipline towards a child develops strong character in him.

32. Mothers are often so tormented by the presence of their children that it seems to them that they cannot be with them for a minute more.

33. Parents should not appear in a bad light to their children.

34. A child should respect his parents more than others.

35. A child should always seek help from his parents or teachers instead of settling his misunderstandings by fighting.

36. Constantly staying with children convinces the mother that her educational capabilities are less than her skills and abilities (she could, but...).

37. Parents must win the favor of their children through their actions.

38. Children who do not try their hand at achieving success should know that they may encounter failures later in life.

39. Parents who talk with a child about his problems should know that it is better to leave the child alone and not get involved in his affairs.

40. Husbands, if they do not want to be selfish, should take part in family life.

41. Girls and boys should not be allowed to see each other naked.

42. If the wife is sufficiently prepared to solve problems, then this is better for both the children and the husband.

43. A child should not have secrets from his parents.

44. If it is your custom that children tell you jokes, and you tell them, then many issues can be resolved calmly and without conflicts.

45. If you teach a child to walk early, this has a beneficial effect on his development.

46. ​​It is not good when a mother alone overcomes all the difficulties associated with caring for and raising a child.

47. A child should have his own views and the opportunity to express them freely.

48. We must protect the child from hard work.

49. A woman must choose between housework and entertainment.

50. A smart father should teach his child to respect his superiors.

51. Very few women receive gratitude from their children for the work spent on raising them.

52. If a child is in trouble, in any case the mother always feels guilty.

53. Young spouses, despite the strength of their feelings, always have disagreements that cause irritation.

54. Children who are instilled with respect for norms of behavior will become good and respected people.

55. It rarely happens that a mother who spends all day with her child manages to be affectionate and calm.

56. Children should not learn outside the home anything that contradicts the views of their parents.

57. Children should know that there are no wiser people than their parents.

58. There is no excuse for a child who hits another child.

59. Young mothers suffer more from their confinement at home than from any other reason.

60. Forcing children to refuse and adapt is a bad method of education.

61. Parents should teach their children to find something to do and not waste free time.

62. Children torment their parents with minor problems if they get used to it from the very beginning.

63. When a mother poorly fulfills her responsibilities towards her children, this probably means that the father does not fulfill his responsibilities to support the family.

64. Children's games with sexual content can lead children to sexual crimes.

65. Only the mother should plan, since only she knows how to run a household.

66. An attentive mother knows what her child is thinking about.

67. Parents who listen with approval to their children's frank statements about their experiences on dates, social gatherings, dances, etc., help them in faster social development.

68. The faster the connection between children and family weakens, the faster children will learn to solve their problems.

69. A smart mother does everything possible to ensure that the child is in good conditions before and after birth.

70. Children should take part in solving important family issues.

71. Parents should know what to do to prevent their children from getting into difficult situations.

72. Too many women forget that their proper place is home.

73. Children need maternal care, which they sometimes lack.

74. Children should be more caring and grateful to their mother for the work invested in them.

75. Most mothers are afraid to torture their child by giving him small tasks.

76. There are many issues in family life that cannot be resolved through calm discussion.

77. Most children should be brought up more strictly than is actually the case.

78. Raising children is hard, nervous work.

79. Children should not doubt the reasonableness of their parents.

80. Children should respect their parents more than anyone else.

81. Children should not be encouraged to take up boxing or wrestling, as this can lead to serious problems.

82. One of the bad things is that the mother, as a rule, does not have free time for her favorite activities.

84. When a child does what he is obliged to do, he is on the right path and will be happy.

85. We must leave a child who is sad alone and not deal with him.

86. The greatest desire of any mother is to be understood by her husband.

87. One of the most difficult moments in raising children is sexual problems.

88. If the mother runs the house and takes care of everything, the whole family feels good.

89. Since the child is part of the mother, he has the right to know everything about his life.

90. Children who are allowed to joke and laugh with their parents are more likely to accept their advice.

91. Parents should make every effort to teach their child to cope with physiological needs as early as possible.

92. Most women need more time to rest after giving birth than they are actually given.

93. A child should have confidence that he will not be punished if he trusts his parents with his problems.

94. A child does not need to be taught hard work at home so that he does not lose the desire for any work.

95. Communication with family is enough for a good mother.

96. Sometimes parents are forced to act against the will of the child.

97. Mothers sacrifice everything for the good of their children.

99. It is natural that two people with opposing views in a marriage quarrel.

100. Raising children with strict discipline makes them happier.

101. Naturally, a mother “goes crazy” if her children are selfish and very demanding.

102. A child should never listen to criticism about his parents.

104. Parents, as a rule, prefer calm children to brawlers.

105. A young mother is unhappy because many things that she would like to have are not available to her.

106. There is no reason why parents should have more rights and privileges than children.

107. The sooner a child understands that there is no point in wasting time, the better for him.

108. Children do everything possible to interest their parents in their problems.

109. Few men understand that the mother of their child also needs joy in life.

110. There is something wrong with a child if he asks a lot about sexual matters.

111. When getting married, a woman must be aware that she will be forced to manage family affairs.

112. It is the mother’s duty to know the secret thoughts of the child.

113. If you include a child in household chores, he can more easily confide in his problems.

114. It is necessary to stop breastfeeding and bottle-feeding the child as soon as possible (teach him to feed “independently”).

115. You cannot demand too much responsibility from a mother towards her children.

For a psychologist working in a production team, the block of scales aimed at identifying parents’ attitudes toward the family role is of greatest interest.
The technique allows you to assess the specifics of intrafamily relationships and the peculiarities of the organization of family life.
In a family, you can isolate certain aspects of relationships:
- household, organization of family life (in the methodology these are scales 3, 13, 19, 23);
- interspousal, related to moral, emotional support, organization of leisure, creation of an environment for personal development, one’s own and that of a partner (in the methodology this is scale 17);
- relationships that ensure the upbringing of children, “pedagogical” (in the scale methodology 5, 11).
By looking at the digital data, you can create a “preliminary portrait” of the family. Scale 7 (family conflicts) is very important. High scores on this scale may indicate conflict, the transfer of family conflict to industrial relations.
High scores on scale 3 indicate the priority of family problems over production ones, the secondary nature of the interests of the “business,” the opposite can be said about scale 13. Individuals with high scores on this criterion are characterized by dependence on the family and low consistency in the distribution of economic functions. Poor family integration is indicated by high scores on scales 17, 19, 23.
Parent-child relationships are the main subject of analysis in the methodology.
The main conclusion that can be drawn immediately is to evaluate parent-child contact from the point of view of its optimality. To do this, the average ratings for the first three groups of scales are compared: optimal contact, emotional distance, concentration.

Questionnaire

Age_________________________ Gender ___________________________
Education ____________________Profession ______________________
Number and age of children _______________________________________

A - 4 points; a - 3 points; b - 2 points; B - 1 point

Signs:
1) Verbalization
2) Excessive concern
3) Dependency on family
4) Suppression of will
5) Feeling of self-sacrifice
6) Fear of offending
7) Family conflicts
8) Irritability
9) Excessive severity
10) Elimination of intra-family influences
11) Superauthority of parents
12) Suppression of aggressiveness
13) Dissatisfaction with the role of the hostess
14) Partnerships
15) Development of child activity
16) Avoiding conflict
17) Husband's indifference
18) Sexual suppression
19) Mother's dominance
20) Extraordinary interference in the child's world
21) Equalized relations
22) The desire to accelerate the development of the child
23) Mother's lack of independence
Of special interest is the analysis of individual scales, which is often the key to understanding the characteristics of a failed relationship between parents and child, and the zone of tension in these relationships.
To calculate the total, add up the points in each line (for example: 1 + 24 + 47 + 70 + 93 = ?). The number of the question in the first column also shows the number of the scale (question No. 14 - the “Partnerships” scale). The sum of points in the line will show the significance of this characteristic in your family. Let us remind you that with proper analysis you need not only to record the score on individual scales, but also to consider them relationships. This will help to find ways to resolve conflicts and more fully determine the reasons that cause them).

The PARI method is designed to study parents’ attitudes towards different aspects of family life (family role), as well as the study of child-parent relationships.

The questionnaire includes 115 statements, which are combined into 23 scales (five statements each). Of these, 8 scales relate to attitudes towards family roles, and 15 – parent-child relationships.

Family Role Attitudes Scale

Described using 8 signs, their numbers in the questionnaire are 3, 5, 7, 11,13, 17, 19, 23:

Limitation of a woman’s interests within the family, caring exclusively about the family (3);

Feeling of self-sacrifice in the role of mother (5);

Dissatisfaction with the role of the housewife (13);

- “indifference” to the husband, his lack of involvement in family affairs (17);

Maternal dominance (19);

Maternal dependence and lack of independence (23).

Parent-Child Relationship Scale

Optimal emotional contact (consists of 4 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 1, 14, 15, 21);

Encouraging verbal manifestations, verbalizations (1);

Partnerships (14);

Development of child activity (15);

Equal relationship between parents and child (21).

Excessive emotional distance with the child (consists of 3 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 8, 9, 16):

Irritability, hot temper (8);

Severity, excessive severity (9);

Avoidance of contact with children (16).

Excessive concentration on the child (8 signs are described, their numbers on the questionnaire are 2, 4, 6, 10, 12, 18, 20,22):

Excessive care, establishment of dependent relationships (2);

Overcoming resistance, suppression of will (4);

Creating security, fear of offending (6);

Elimination of extra-familial influences (10);

Suppression of aggressiveness (12);

Sexual suppression (18);

Excessive interference in the child’s world (20);

The desire to accelerate the development of the child (22).

Each attribute is measured using 5 judgments, balanced in terms of measuring ability and semantic content. The entire methodology consists of 115 judgments. Judgments are arranged in a certain sequence, and the respondent must express an attitude towards them in the form of active or partial agreement or disagreement. The scheme for recalculating answers points is contained in the “key” of the methodology. The sum of digital significance determines the severity of the trait 20, the minimum 5.18, 19.20 - high scores, respectively 8.7,6.5 - low. The questionnaire and answer sheet are attached.

It makes sense to analyze high and low scores first.

Instructions: Here are questions that will help you find out what parents think about raising children. There are no right or wrong answers here, because... everyone is right in relation to their own views. Try to answer accurately and truthfully.

Some questions may seem the same to you. However, this is not tech. The questions are similar, but not the same. This was done in order to capture possible, even small differences in views on raising children.

The questionnaire will take approximately 20 minutes to complete. Do not think about the answer for a long time, answer quickly, trying to give the correct answer that comes to your mind.

Next to each position are the letters A a b B; you need to choose them depending on your belief in the correctness of the given sentence:

A – if you fully agree with this provision;

a – if you rather agree with this provision than disagree;

b – if you disagree with this provision rather than agree;

B – if you completely agree with this provision.

Tell us about yourself:

Age ___________________________________ Gender _______________________

Education ________________________Profession __________________

Number and age of children _______________________________________

1. If children consider their views to be correct, they may not agree with the views of their parents.

2. A good mother should protect her children even from small difficulties and insults.

3. For a good mother, home and family are the most important things in life.

4. Some children are so bad that for their own good they need to be taught to fear adults.

5. Children should be aware that their parents do a lot for them.

6. A small child should always be held firmly in your hands while washing to prevent him from falling.

7. People who think that there can be no misunderstandings in a good family do not know life.

8. When a child grows up, he will thank his parents for their strict upbringing.

9. Staying with a child all day can lead to nervous exhaustion.

10. It is best if the child does not think about whether his parents’ views are correct.

11. Parents must instill in their children complete confidence in themselves.

12. A child should be taught to avoid fighting, regardless of the circumstances.

13. The worst thing for a mother who does housework is the feeling that it is not easy for her to free herself from her responsibilities.

14. It is easier for parents to adapt to their children than vice versa.

15. A child must learn many necessary things in life, and therefore he should not be allowed to waste valuable time.

16. If you agree once that a child is being sarcastic, he will do it all the time.

17.If fathers did not interfere in raising children, mothers would cope better with their children.

18. There is no need to talk about gender issues in the presence of a child.

19. If the mother did not manage the house, husband and children, everything would happen less organized.

20. A mother should do everything to know what her children are thinking about.

21. If parents were more interested in the affairs of their children, the children would be better and happier.

22. Most children should be able to independently cope with physiological needs from the age of 15 months.

23. The most difficult thing for a young mother is to remain alone in the first years of raising a child.

24. We must encourage children to express their opinions about life and the family, even if they believe that life in the family is wrong.

25. A mother should do everything to protect her child from the disappointments that life brings.

26. Women who lead a carefree life are not very good mothers.

27. It is imperative to eradicate manifestations of nascent malice in children.

28. A mother must sacrifice her happiness for the happiness of her child.

29. All young mothers are afraid of their inexperience in handling a child.

30. Spouses should argue from time to time to prove their rights.

31. Strict discipline towards a child develops strong character in him.

32. Mothers are often so tormented by the presence of their children that it seems to them that they cannot be with them for a minute more.

33. Parents should not appear in a bad light to their children.

34. A child should respect his parents more than others.

35. A child should always seek help from his parents or teachers instead of settling his misunderstandings by fighting.

36. Constantly staying with children convinces the mother that her educational capabilities are less than her skills and abilities (she could, but ...)

37. Parents must win the favor of their children through their actions.

38. Children who do not try their hand at achieving success should know that they may encounter failures later in life.

39. Parents who talk with a child about his problems should know that it is better to leave the child alone and not get involved in his affairs.

40. Husbands, if they do not want to be selfish, should take part in family life.

41. Girls and boys should not be allowed to see each other naked.

42. If the wife is sufficiently prepared to solve problems independently, then this is better for both the children and the husband.

43. A child should not have any secrets from his parents.

44. If it is your custom that children tell you jokes, and you tell them, then many issues can be resolved calmly and without conflicts.

45. If you teach a child to walk early, this has a beneficial effect on his development.

46. ​​It is not good when a mother alone overcomes all the difficulties associated with caring for and raising a child.

47. A child should have his own views and the opportunity to express them freely.

48. We must protect the child from hard work.

49. A woman must choose between housework and entertainment.

50. A smart father should teach his child to respect his superiors.

51.Very few women receive gratitude from their children for the work spent on their upbringing.

52.If a child is in trouble, in any case the mother always feels guilty.

53. Young spouses, despite the strength of their feelings, always have disagreements that cause irritation.

54.Children who are taught respect for norms of behavior become good and respected people.

55. It rarely happens that a mother who takes care of her child all day manages to be affectionate and calm.

56. Children should not learn outside the home anything that contradicts the views of their parents.

57.Children should know that there are no wiser people than their parents.

58. There is no excuse for a child who hits another child.

59. Young mothers suffer more from their confinement at home than from any other reason.

60. Forcing children to refuse and adapt is a bad method of parenting.

61. Parents should teach their children to find something to do and not waste free time.

62. Children torment their parents with minor problems if they get used to it from the very beginning.

63. When a mother poorly fulfills her responsibilities towards her children, this probably means that the father does not fulfill his responsibilities to support the family.

64. Children's games with sexual content can lead children to sexual crimes.

65. Only the mother should plan, since only she knows how to run a household.

66. An attentive mother knows what her child is thinking about.

67. Parents who listen with approval to their children's frank statements about their experiences on dates, social gatherings, dances, etc., help them in faster social development.

68. The faster the connection between children and family weakens, the faster children will learn to solve their problems.

69. A smart mother does everything possible to ensure that the child is in good conditions before and after birth.

70. Children should take part in solving important family issues.

71. Parents should know what to do to prevent their children from getting into difficult situations.

72. Too many women forget that their proper place is home.

73. Children need maternal care, which they sometimes lack.

74. Children should be more caring and grateful to their mother for the work invested in them.

75. Most mothers are afraid to torture their child by giving him small tasks.

76. There are many issues in family life that cannot be resolved through calm discussion.

77. Most children should be brought up more strictly than is actually the case.

78. Raising children is hard, nervous work.

79. Children should not doubt the reasonableness of their parents.

80. Children should respect their parents more than anyone else.

81. Children should not be encouraged to take up boxing or wrestling, as this can lead to serious problems.

82. One of the bad things is that the mother does not have free time for her favorite activities.

84. When a child does what he is obliged to do, he is on the right path and will be happy.

85. We must leave a child who is sad alone and not deal with him.

86. The greatest desire of any mother is to be understood by her husband.

87. One of the most difficult moments in raising children is sexual problems.

88. If the mother runs the house and takes care of everything, the whole family feels good.

89. Since the child is part of the mother, he has the right to know everything about her life.

90. Children who are allowed to joke and laugh with their parents are more likely to accept their advice.

91. Parents should make every effort to cope with physiological needs as early as possible.

92. Most women need more time to rest after giving birth than they are actually given.

93. A child should have confidence that he will not be punished if he trusts his parents with his problems.

94. A child does not need to be taught hard work at home so that he does not lose the desire for any work.

95. Communication with family is enough for a good mother.

96. Sometimes parents are forced to act against the will of the child.

97. Mothers sacrifice everything for the good of their children.

99. It is natural that two people with opposing views in a marriage quarrel.

100. Raising children with strict discipline makes them happier.

101. Naturally, a mother “goes crazy” if her children are selfish and very demanding.

102. A child should never listen to criticism about his parents.

104. Parents, as a rule, prefer calm children to brawlers.

105. A young mother is unhappy because many things that she would like to have are not available to her.

106. There is no reason why parents should have more rights and privileges than children.

107. The sooner a child understands that there is no point in wasting time, the better for him.

108. Children do everything possible to interest their parents in their problems.

109. Few men understand that the mother of their child also needs joy.

110. There is something wrong with a child if he asks a lot about sexual matters.

111. When getting married, a woman must be aware that she will be forced to manage family affairs.

112. It is the mother’s duty to know the secret thoughts of the child.

113. If you include a child in household chores, it is easier for him to trust them with his problems.

114. It is necessary to stop breastfeeding and bottle-feeding your child as early as possible (teach him to feed himself).

115. You cannot demand too much responsibility from a mother towards her children.

The style of communication with a child is largely determined by family traditions. Mothers reproduce the parenting style of their own childhood and repeat the style of their mothers. The characterological characteristics of parents are one of the significant determinants of parental attitudes. The pathological sharpness of characterological traits in parents gives rise to specific characteristics of the attitude towards the child. For example, parents may not notice those character traits in themselves, to the slightest manifestation of which in a child they react affectively and painfully, persistently trying to eradicate them. Thus, parents unconsciously project their problems onto the child.

Purpose. The PARI (parent-child relationship) technique is designed to study the attitude of parents (primarily mothers) to different aspects of family life (family role). The methodology also highlights aspects-signs relating to different aspects of the parent’s relationship with the child. The authors of the method are American psychologists E.S. Schaeffer and R.C. Bell.

Instructions:
Here are questions that will help you find out what parents think about raising children. There are no right or wrong answers here, since everyone is right in relation to their own views. Try to answer accurately and truthfully.

Some questions may seem the same to you. However, it is not. There are questions that are similar, but not the same. This was done in order to capture possible, even small differences in views on raising children.

The questionnaire will take approximately 20 minutes to complete. Don’t think about your answer for a long time, answer quickly, try to give the first answer that comes to your mind.

Next to each position there are the letters A a b B; you need to choose them depending on your belief in the correctness of this position:
A - if you fully agree with this provision;
a - if you rather agree with this provision than disagree;
b - if you disagree with this provision rather than agree;
B - if you completely disagree with this provision. Please tell us about yourself: Age Gender

Education Profession
Number and age of children.
1. If children consider their views to be correct, they may not agree with the views of their parents.
2. A good mother should protect her children even from small difficulties and insults.
3. For a good mother, home and family are the most important things in life.
4. Some children are so bad that for their own good they need to be taught to fear adults.
5. Children should be aware that their parents do a lot for them.
6. A small child should always be held firmly while washing to prevent him from falling.
7. People who think that there can be no misunderstandings in a good family do not know life.
8. When a child grows up, he will thank his parents for their strict upbringing.
9. Staying with a child all day can lead to nervous exhaustion.
10. It is better if the child does not think about whether his parents’ views are correct.
11. Parents must instill in their children complete confidence in themselves.
12. A child should be taught to avoid fighting regardless of the circumstances.
13. The worst thing for a mother who does housework is the feeling that it is not easy for her to free herself from her responsibilities.
14. It is easier for parents to adapt to their children than vice versa.
15. A child must learn many necessary things in life, and therefore he should not be allowed to waste valuable time.
16. If you agree once that a child is being sarcastic, he will do it all the time.
17. If fathers did not interfere in raising children, mothers would cope better with their children.
18. There is no need to talk about gender issues in the presence of a child.
19. If the mother did not manage the house, husband and children, everything would happen less organized.
20. A mother should do everything to know what her children are thinking about.
21. If parents were more interested in the affairs of their children, the children would be better and happier.
22. Most children should be able to independently cope with physiological needs from the age of 15 months.
23. The most difficult thing for a young mother is to remain alone in the first years of raising a child.
24. We must encourage children to express their opinions about life in the family, even if they believe that life in the family is wrong.
25. A mother should do everything to protect her child from the disappointments that life brings.
26. Women who lead a carefree life are not very good mothers.
27. It is imperative to eradicate manifestations of incipient malice in children.
28. A mother must sacrifice her happiness for the happiness of her child.
29. All young mothers are afraid of their inexperience in handling a child.
30. Spouses should argue from time to time to prove their rights.
31. Strict discipline towards a child develops strong character in him.
32. Mothers are often so tormented by the presence of their children that it seems to them that they cannot be with them for a minute more.
33. Parents should not appear in a bad light to their children.
34. A child should respect his parents more than others.
35. A child should always seek help from his parents or teachers instead of settling his misunderstandings by fighting.
36. Constantly staying with children convinces the mother that her educational capabilities are less than her skills and abilities (she could, but...).
37. Parents must win the favor of their children through their actions.
38. Children who do not try their hand at achieving success should know that they may encounter failures later in life.
39. Parents who talk with a child about his problems should know that it is better to leave the child alone and not get involved in his affairs.
40. Husbands, if they do not want to be selfish, should take part in family life.
41. Girls and boys should not be allowed to see each other naked.
42. If the wife is sufficiently prepared to solve problems independently, then this is better for both the children and the husband.
43. A child should not have secrets from his parents. AabB
44. If it is your custom that children tell you jokes, and you tell them, then many issues can be resolved calmly and without conflicts. AabB
45. If you teach a child to walk early, this will have a beneficial effect on his development.
46. ​​It is not good when a mother alone overcomes all the difficulties associated with caring for and raising a child.
47. A child should have his own views and the opportunity to express them freely.
48. We must protect the child from hard work.
49. A woman must choose between housework and entertainment.
50. A smart father should teach his child to respect his superiors.
51. Very few women receive gratitude from their children for the work spent on raising them.
52. If a child is in trouble, in any case the mother always feels guilty.
53. Young spouses, despite the strength of their feelings, always have disagreements that cause irritation.
54. Children who are taught respect for norms of behavior become good, stable and respected people.
55. It rarely happens that a mother who spends all day with her child manages to be affectionate and calm.
56. Children should not learn outside the home anything that contradicts the views of their parents.
57. Children should know that there are no wiser people than their parents.
58. There is no excuse for a child who hits another child.
59. Young mothers suffer more from their confinement at home than from any other reason.
60. Forcing children to refuse and adapt is a bad method of education.
61. Parents should teach their children to find something to do and not waste free time.
62. Children torment their parents with minor problems if they get used to it from the very beginning.
63. When a mother poorly fulfills her responsibilities towards her children, this probably means that the father does not fulfill his responsibilities to support the family.
64. Children's games with sexual content can lead children to sexual crimes.
65. Only the mother should plan, since only she knows how to run a household.
66. An attentive mother should know what her child is thinking about.
67. Parents who listen with approval to their children's frank statements about their experiences on dates, social gatherings, dances, etc., help them in faster social development.
68. The faster the connection between children and family weakens, the faster children will learn to solve their problems.
69. A smart mother does everything possible to ensure that the child is in good conditions before and after birth.
70. Children should take part in solving important family issues.
71. Parents should know what to do to prevent their children from getting into difficult situations.
72. Too many women forget that their proper place is home.
73. Children need maternal care, which they sometimes lack.
74. Children should be more caring and grateful to their mother for the work invested in them.
75. Most mothers are afraid to teach their child, giving him small tasks.
76. There are many issues in family life that cannot be resolved through calm discussion.
77. Most children should be brought up more strictly than is actually the case.
78. Raising children is hard, nervous work.
79. Children should not doubt the way their parents think.
80. Children should respect their parents more than anyone else.
81. Children should not be encouraged to take up boxing and wrestling as this can lead to serious body damage and other problems.
82. One of the bad things is that the mother, as a rule, does not have free time for her favorite activities.
83. Parents should consider their children equal to themselves in all matters of life.
84. When a child does what he is obliged to do, he is on the right path and will be happy.
85. We must leave a child who is sad alone and not deal with him.
86. The greatest desire of any mother is to be understood by her husband. AabB
87. One of the most difficult moments in raising children is sexual problems.
88. If the mother runs the house and takes care of everything, the whole family feels good.
89. Since the child is part of the mother, she has the right to know everything about his life.
90. Children who are allowed to joke and laugh with their parents are more likely to accept their advice.
91. Parents should make every effort to teach their child to cope with physiological needs as early as possible.
92. Most women need more time to rest after giving birth than they are actually given.
93. A child should have confidence that he will not be punished if he trusts his parents with his problems.
94. A child does not need to be taught hard work at home so that he does not lose the desire for any work.
95. For a good mother, communication with her own family is enough.
96. Sometimes parents are forced to act against the will of the child.
97. Mothers sacrifice everything for the good of their children.
98. The most important concern of a mother is the well-being and safety of the child.
99. It is natural that two people with opposing views in a marriage quarrel.
100. Raising children with strict discipline makes them happier.
101. Naturally, a mother “goes crazy” if her children are selfish and very demanding.
102. A child should never listen to criticism about his parents.
103. The first duty of children is trust in their parents.
104. Parents, as a rule, prefer calm children to brawlers.
105. A young mother feels unhappy because she knows that many things she would like to have are not available to her.
106. There is no reason why parents should have more rights and privileges than children.
107. The sooner a child understands that there is no point in wasting time, the better for him.
108. Children do everything possible to interest their parents in their problems.
109. Few men understand that the mother of their child also needs joy in life.
110. There is something wrong with a child if he asks a lot about sexual matters.
111. When getting married, a woman must be aware that she will be forced to manage family affairs.
112. It is the mother’s duty to know the secret thoughts of the child.
113. If you include your child in homework, he will become more in touch with his parents and it will be easier for him to trust them with his problems.
114. It is necessary to stop breastfeeding and bottle-feeding the child as early as possible (teach the child to feed “independently”).
115. You cannot demand too much responsibility from a mother towards her children.

The methodology identifies 23 aspect-signs relating to different aspects of the parents’ relationship to the child and life in the family. Of these, 8 signs describe attitudes towards the family role and 15 relate to parent-child relationships. These 15 signs are divided into 3 groups: I - optimal emotional contact, II - excessive emotional distance with the child; III - excessive concentration on the child.

Scales these look like this:
ATTITUDE TO FAMILY ROLE
Described using 8 signs, their numbers in the questionnaire are 3, 5, 7, 11, 13, 17, 19, 23:
- limitation of a woman’s interests within the framework of the family, caring exclusively about the family (3);
- a feeling of self-sacrifice in the role of a mother (5);
- family conflicts (7);
- super-authority of parents (11);
- dissatisfaction with the role of the housewife (13);
- “indifference” of the husband, his lack of involvement in family affairs (17);
- mother's dominance (19);
- dependence and lack of independence of the mother (23).

PARENTS' ATTITUDE TO THE CHILD
I. Optimal emotional contact (consists of 4 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 1, 14, 15,21):
- encouraging verbal manifestations, verbalizations (1);
- partnerships (14);
- development of child activity (15);
- equalizing relationship between parents and child (21).
II. Excessive emotional distance with the child (consists of 3 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 8,9, 16):
- irritability, short temper (8);
- severity, excessive severity (9);
- avoidance of contact with the child (16).
III. Excessive concentration on the child (described by 8 signs, their numbers on the questionnaire are 2, 4, 6, 10, 12, 18, 20, 22):
- excessive care, establishment of dependent relationships (2);
- overcoming resistance, suppression of will (4);
- creating security, fear of offending (6);
- exclusion of extra-family influences (10);
- suppression of aggressiveness (12);
- suppression of sexuality (18);
- excessive interference in the child’s world (20);
- desire to accelerate the development of the child (22). Each attribute is measured using 5 judgments, balanced in terms of measuring ability and semantic content. The entire methodology consists of 115 judgments. Judgments are arranged in a certain sequence, and the respondent must express an attitude towards them in the form of active or partial agreement or disagreement. The scheme for converting answers into points is contained in the “key” of the methodology. The amount of digital significance determines the severity of the trait. Thus, the maximum severity of the trait is 20, the minimum is 5; 18, 19, 20 - high scores, respectively - 8, 7, 6, 5 - low.

It makes sense to analyze high and low scores first.

For a psychologist working in a production team, perhaps of greater interest is a block of scales aimed at identifying parents’ attitudes toward the family role.

In a family, you can isolate certain aspects of relationships:

• household, organization of family life (in the methodology these are scales 3, 13, 19, 23);
• interspousal, related to moral, emotional support, organization of leisure, creation of an environment for personal development, one’s own and that of a partner (in the methodology this is scale 17);
• relationships that ensure the upbringing of children are “pedagogical” (in the scale methodology 5, 11).

By looking at the digital data, you can create a “preliminary portrait” of the family. Scale 7 (family conflicts) is very important. High scores on this scale may indicate conflict, the transfer of family conflict to industrial relations.

Psychological assistance is aimed at resolving family conflicts and improving relationships in the production team.

High scores on scale 3 indicate the priority of family problems over production ones, the secondary nature of the interests of the “business”, the opposite can be said about scale 13. Individuals with high scores on this criterion are characterized by dependence on the family, low consistency in the distribution of economic functions . Poor family integration is indicated by high scores on scales 17, 19, 23.

An analysis of the attitude towards the family role will help the psychologist to better understand the specifics of the subject’s family relationships and provide him with psychological assistance.

Parent-child relationships are the main subject of analysis in the methodology.

The main conclusion that can be drawn immediately is to evaluate parent-child contact from the point of view of its optimality. To do this, the average ratings for the first three groups of scales are compared: optimal contact, emotional distance, concentration.

Of special interest is the analysis of individual scales, which is often the key to understanding the characteristics of a failed relationship between parents and child, and the zone of tension in these relationships.

The technique can also assist in preparing and conducting a psychodiagnostic conversation.

Signs:
1) verbalization;
2) excessive care;
3) dependence on family;
4) suppression of will;
5) a feeling of self-sacrifice;
6) fear of offending;
7) family conflicts;
8) irritability;
9) excessive severity;
10) exclusion of non-family influences;
11) super-authority of parents;
12) suppression of aggressiveness;
13) dissatisfaction with the role of the hostess;
14) partnerships;
15) development of child activity;
16) avoidance of conflict;
17) indifference of the husband;
18) repressed sexuality;
19) mother's dominance;
20) extreme interference in the child’s world;
21) equalization of relations;
22) desire to accelerate the development of the child;
23) lack of independence of the mother.