Etiquette for children or how to teach them to live in society. Types of etiquette for children: at the table, at a party, behavior on the street, in public places, at school, in the family, in the theater. Etiquette of politeness, communication, speech, telephone Rules of conduct for children everywhere

The didactic manual “Etiquette for Kids” is intended for working with children of senior preschool age in classes on the formation of coherent speech in children and familiarization with basic etiquette norms and rules.

The manual is addressed to preschool teachers.

Explanatory note.

Every parent wants the best for their child. He wants the child to grow up healthy, smart, cheerful and well-mannered. “Good breeding is the only thing that can endear you to people at first sight, because to recognize great abilities in you, it takes more time,” wrote the English writer and statesman F. Chesterfield. Knowing the rules of behavior and communication between people allows not only a child, but also an adult to feel confident and free. The rules of etiquette are simple and reasonable. The main rule is to make others feel good.

There are four levels of etiquette:

❖ the first ends by the age of 5, the motto is “Don’t disturb the people around you” (don’t talk loudly, don’t push, etc.);

❖ the second - by the age of 10, the motto is “Be pleasant to the people around you” (give compliments, hide your bad mood, etc.);

❖ third - by the age of 14, the motto is “Help the people around you” (give way, offer help, etc.);

❖ fourth - by the age of 18, the motto is “Be natural.”

For several years, I have been conducting additional classes with children of senior preschool age on etiquette and culture of behavior. In the classroom, I successfully used mnemonic tables, introducing children, and parents, to etiquette norms and rules.

Mnemonic tables on etiquette serve as didactic material for the development of coherent speech in children and familiarization with basic etiquette norms and rules.

The purpose of developing the manual:

Formation of a culture of behavior and communication between children and adults.

Tasks:

✓ familiarity with the rules of etiquette,

✓ formation of cultural behavior skills in children in a variety of life situations,

✓ development of children’s communication skills with people around them,

✓ education in children of moral qualities necessary in society.

Themes:

❖ "Greetings"

❖ “Farewell”,

❖ “Behavior on the street”,

❖ “Rules of conduct in transport”,

❖ “We’re talking on the phone,”

❖ “Let’s go to the theater”,

❖ “Behavior in the store.”

Progress of the game:

Children sit in a semicircle, the teacher is next to them. A plot picture or story from the teacher serves as an impetus for conversation on the topic chosen by the teacher. At the end of the general discussion, preschoolers move to the tables (you can do physical exercises at this time). A 3*3 table is drawn on a piece of paper (or better yet, in a notebook). The teacher presents to the children on the board a mnemonic table with the rules of etiquette that they learned about during the discussion. Preschoolers redraw the table in a notebook, which they take home. At home, the children talk about the rules of etiquette to their parents, who write them down verbatim. Thus, parents become familiar with etiquette norms and rules, and students strengthen attention and memory, and develop speech. Several tables are shown as a sample, and in the future, children fill out the tables on their own, using their skills.

Topic: "Greetings"

The name is called

A smile warms the greeting

The youngest greets the elder first

We don't keep our hands in our pockets

The one who enters first greets those present

The man greets the woman first

The woman is the first to offer her hand for a handshake

We don't chew when we greet

When talking, look at the “third” eye

To shake hands, we offer our right (clean) hand (the left side of the body is considered satanic, unclean).

Theme: "Farewell"

When saying goodbye we use a handshake

Head nod

Waving your hand

Friendly farewell: bye, happily, ciao

If a meeting is expected, we say “see you”

How do you say goodbye to your parents before bed?

The very word “farewell” means the end of the meeting

Topic: “Behavior on the street”

We go out into the street neatly dressed

We move on the right side of the road

We don’t walk in a line down the street

The girl walks from the more honorable right side (a saber hung on her left side)

We cross the road at a green traffic light

We don't shout on the street

We don’t litter on the street, there is a trash can for papers

We don't chew anything on the street

You can only eat ice cream, but not lick it, but bite it

If there is an accident on the street, call 03.

Topic: “Rules of behavior in transport”

When getting out of a vehicle, we help the elderly, mother, or girl get out

We give way to the disabled, mother

We don’t discuss our problems loudly

We don’t step on our feet, we don’t stand with our feet on the seat.

We don’t comb our hair in transport

We give way to someone who has difficulty standing (mother and baby)

We go around the trolleybus and bus from behind, and the tram, on the contrary, from the front

If they give us a seat, then we thank and refuse

We don’t push everyone with our elbows

If we have a backpack hanging behind us, take it off and put it next to us.

Topic: “Talking on the phone”

We don’t chew while talking on the phone

We don’t yawn, causing boredom to our interlocutor

If the phone buzzes 4-5 times and no one picks up, don’t bother this number

If you do pick up the phone, then first greet the person you are calling

And secondly, we introduce ourselves, that is, we say our name

We write down all phone numbers in a notebook

Be sure to learn your phone number

We call until ten o'clock in the evening: later someone may go to bed

We ask if they have been distracted from important matters

We don’t chat for a long time, because... maybe someone else can't get through on an important matter

If we got to the wrong place, we apologize

If you get to us by mistake, we answer: “Sorry, you have the wrong number.”

Topic: “Let's go to the theater”

We come to the theater nicely dressed (combed, washed, with a clean handkerchief, polished shoes)

Don't forget to take your ticket

We purchase a program at the theater

After the first bell, we approach the ticket taker and ask to show our place in the hall.

After the third bell, entry into the hall is prohibited.

You can drink and eat at the buffet

We don’t eat in the hall, we don’t shout

We liked the performance - clap our hands (applause)

We calmly go to the wardrobe and take our clothes by number.

Topic: “Behavior in the store”

We hold the door and let people leave the store

We do not take animals into the store

We stand in line at the store

Product basket

We take products with our hands only in packaging

Etiquette standards for contacting the seller

First pay for the product (product) - then eat it

We don't shout in the store

We don't run around the store.

Topic: “Rules of behavior in the temple.”

Clothes for visiting the temple should be modest

We don't hold hands

We don't shout

We don't eat

We don't drink in church

Only older people sit on benches

If you light a candle, don’t immediately run away from it

It is not allowed to take photos or videos in the temple, only in exceptional cases

We don't run around in church.

Topic: “Friendship rules for group children”

We don't fight

We are not greedy

We don't quarrel

We don't shout at each other, we talk calmly

We feel sorry for those who cry, we try to help them

We apologize if you accidentally dropped it and help you get up

If a child breaks a rule in a game, we don’t fight, but remind him of this rule

We don't deceive

We bring toys and treats to all children in the group.

Purpose of the lesson: teach your child to talk politely with your guest; give an idea of ​​the rules for starting a conversation with a guest and polite expressions of greeting.

Not only adults, but also children come to visit. You need to be attentive to your little guest: offer a common game, engage in conversation. If the owner or guest sings, plays, reads poetry, you need to listen to him carefully, without interrupting. The performance can be praised. They spend time visiting. The owner’s task is to ensure that time is not wasted. Pay special attention to the tone of the greeting and invitation. When a guest arrives, you need to smile and invite him to come into the house.

Reading text:

Ksyusha was delighted: Irisha came to visit.

- Hello, Irisha, come in,

Be our guest.

If you want, sit

To relax.

If you want, take a look

A beautiful book.

If you want, download it

Teddy bear...

Petya grins. He wants to tease the girls:

- Ksyushka is a rattle,

Irishka the piece of wood!

At ours at Ksyushka's

Freckles on my nose!

At ours at Ksyushka's

Chub like a lamb's!

Young ladies - madams,

I'll throw you into a hole!

The girls were offended. They stepped aside and began to talk quietly among themselves. After a while, the grandmother came in and asked Ksyusha to sing for Valentina Stepanovna. Ksyusha happily agreed. Valentina Stepanovna praised Ksyusha:

- How pleasant it is for me to listen to a sweet child. A voice like a stream, joyful and ringing.

Here Petya intervened. He began to tease his sister again:

- Ksyushka - stick - hippopotamus, She has a two-meter mouth.

As soon as Ksyushka opens her mouth, I cover myself with a pillow!

Ksyusha fell silent. Dad took Petya to another room. And then Ksyusha and Irisha sang and danced for a long time, and Petya was left alone. Nobody wanted to talk to him.

Issues for discussion:

— With what words did Ksyusha greet her guest? What shows that she is happy with Irisha? How did Ksyusha try to keep her friend busy?

— Did Petya behave correctly? Why was he left alone? (Because he was impolite. He probably expected the girls to laugh while listening to his poems. Petya did not think that it was unpleasant for a person to be teased. Funny teases can offend. It is especially unacceptable to offend a guest.)

Game situations:

Let Igor and Masha come to visit Gala. Galya, invite the guys to play puppet theater. What kind of fairy tale can you play out? How to prepare artists? Assign roles.

Let Kostya come to visit Vova. Vova, invite Kostya to play checkers or lotto. Kostya, don’t forget to thank Vova for your hospitality.

Let Kolya and Boris come to visit Misha. Kolya, invite your friends to watch your favorite movie. Exchange opinions about what you watched. Boris and Kolya, when you leave, don’t forget to say words of gratitude to Misha’s parents. Say hello to them from your parents.

Lesson 2. Topic: Farewell before bed

Purpose of the lesson: introduce children to traditional Russian wishes for good night and pleasant dreams before bed, which are addressed to loved ones.

Etiquette is especially important to observe at home. It is advisable to observe the tradition of wishing good dreams and pleasant dreams in the family. Before going to bed, it is harmful to start games, frolic and play pranks. Pay attention to the lines “Stop talking! Go to bed! Dad says them. He served in the army and was accustomed to order. These are playful men's teams.

Reading text:

Late evening. It's time to sleep. Tomorrow mom and dad have to get up early: they will go to work, and Ksyusha and Petya, as always, will go to kindergarten.

Grandma says:

“It’s time to sleep, my little ones, quickly wash your face and go to bed.”

Petya resists:

- Firstly, I’m not little, it’s time for Ksyushka to go to bed, and I’ll play chess. Grandfather, let's play chess? A? I'll checkmate you. Just four moves and checkmate...

- What are you saying, Petya, what kind of chess are you looking for at night?

- Tell me, grandfather, how can you look at the night? Let's go out onto the balcony and take a look...

Then dad intervened:

- Stop talking! Go to bed!

“Go to bed,” Petya answered regretfully. He took off his shirt and threw it up to the ceiling. Then he did a somersault and a headstand.

At this time, Ksyusha came out of the bathroom. She carefully folded her things, walked up to her grandparents and said:

- Good night.

“Good night, Ksyushenka, I wish you good dreams,” said grandfather.

“Sleep well, granddaughter,” said the grandmother and kissed Ksyusha.

The girl went up to her mom and dad and wished them good night. Dad stroked Ksyusha’s head:

- Good night, sweet dreams!

Mom kissed Ksyusha:

Good night, my smart girl.

Where is Petya? Looks like he's still standing on his head...

Issues for discussion:

— What words are used to say goodbye before going to bed? What did Ksyusha, grandmother, and grandfather say to each other?

— When you go to bed, do you wish your loved ones good night?

— How do you prepare for bed? Why did Petya behave incorrectly? Why can't you be naughty and make noise before bed?

Game situations:

Let Masha be a mother, and Kolya a father. The doll is your child. Put your child to bed. Wish him good night.

You, of course, know that children are sung lullabies at night. Who will sing a lullaby? Do you want to learn a new lullaby?

Let Vasya be a grandfather, and Vitya a naughty grandson. The grandfather advises his grandson to go to bed, and the grandson is looking for various tricks to fool around longer. How will the conversation between grandfather and grandson end?

Let Inna be a mother, Lena a daughter. Wish each other something nice before going to bed.

Lesson 3. Topic: Morning greeting

Purpose of the lesson: introduce children to the traditional greetings that are exchanged in the morning when they wake up.

The child must understand that the morning greeting is a sign of attention and love for loved ones, a manifestation of care for them. From the very morning a person should be friendly, kind and cheerful.

Reading text:

The alarm clock is ringing. Mom approaches the children:

- It's time to get up. Wake up. Good morning.

Ksyusha and Petya don’t want to get up. Ksyusha asks:

- Mommy, let me lie down for another five minutes. Oh please!

Petya turns to the wall and covers his head with a blanket.

Dad appears:

- Get up, get dressed, working people.

Everyone get to work and sing ahead!

He cheerfully rips off Petya's blanket.

- A-ah-ah! - Petya yells. - Ooo!

Ksyusha has already gotten up. She looks at her brother and laughs:

- Hey, couch potato, get up quickly,

Put on your trousers quickly!

Petya is unhappy:

- Shut up, Ksyushka, otherwise you’ll get...

- Good morning, brother, no need to be angry.

“Good morning,” Petya mutters.

Dad commands:

- Get ready to exercise!

- Pull yourself up on the bar. Well, we'll see who's bigger.

Ksyusha tries to pull herself up, but she can’t. Petya teases her:

- Ksyushka ate little porridge, Muscles are like curdled milk!

Now Petya wants to pull himself up, but he turns awkwardly and falls onto the mat. Ksyusha runs up to her brother:

-Are you hurt? Aren't you in pain?

The would-be gymnast just shakes his head. Grandmother enters:

- Good morning, children! How did you sleep? What dreams did you have? What's wrong with you, Petya?

- It’s okay, grandma, don’t worry. Good morning. What is the weather today?

- It seems cold. Snow. Dress warmly. Dad will take you on a sled.

Ksyusha and Petya clap their hands.

- Wow! Quickly outside!..

The yard is white and white. At the entrance there is a large sleigh with a backrest. Ksyusha and Petya get into the sleigh. On the way to kindergarten they meet a neighbor:

- Good morning, Aunt Varya!

— Good morning, travelers, happy first snow!

And here is the kindergarten. Ksyusha is expected in the middle group, and Petya in the senior group.

“Hello, kids, good morning, come quickly,” says teacher Elena Petrovna.

- Good morning, Elena Petrovna. We are already ready.

- Glad to see you. I hope you slept well, had pleasant dreams and are in a good mood. A surprise awaits you today...

Issues for discussion:

- Let's figure out what surprise the guys can expect?

— What words should you say when you wake up in the morning? What do you say to your mother, grandmother?

— In the morning you meet your neighbors. What should you tell them?

— You come to kindergarten. What should you say to the teacher and the children when you meet?

- Why do you think the morning is wiser than the evening? Remember: to be in a good mood all day, you need to be polite and friendly in the morning.

Game situations:

Galya came to visit her grandparents in the village. Anton is a grandfather, Ira is a grandmother. Early in the morning, grandparents wake Galya up. Imagine the morning in the village in their faces. Just don't forget polite words.

Mom went on a business trip, and Petya stayed with dad. Early in the morning, dad wakes Petya up. A man's conversation takes place between them. Act out this conversation, but remember: real

male conversation is always reserved, polite and laconic.

Mother is sick. Lilya gets up early and goes to her mother’s bed. What do they say to each other? Act out this conversation.

Let Vova be a member of the big Muratov family. Let's assign the remaining roles and imagine Sunday morning (Monday morning).

Roles can be chosen by children at will, but can be assigned by a teacher or parent.

Lesson 4. Topic: About compliance

Purpose of the lesson: Explain to children how important it is in games and in serious matters not to be rude and to give in to each other.

Reading text:

Elena Petrovna says to the guys:

- Come to the window and see what surprise your dads have prepared for us.

The children run to the window. There is a large ice slide in the yard.

- Hooray! Today we will go downhill! Thank you! Such a surprise!

Elena Petrovna rejoices with everyone:

“Everyone takes their sled, sits on it, and, like the wind, flies down the mountain.” Aren't you afraid?

- No! It is very funny!

- We all know how to ride!

— We ride every winter!

- Hurry up for a walk!

Petya jumps on one leg. He already has funny poems ready:

— There is a mountain in the yard,

Not a mountain, but a hill.

Vova is sitting next to him on a sleigh,

Cat and Lorochka.

The board broke -

Laura fell into the snow.

Vova jumped on the cat

The cat rushed through the gate...

The guys roar with laughter: Elena Petrovna looks sternly at the guys:

- Is everyone ready? Fine. Be careful. Give in to each other.

And here is the slide. Petya pushes everyone away and climbs up. He feels like a climber, a conqueror of icy mountains. Sasha quietly creeps up to Petya and tugs on his felt boots. Petya flies down, followed by Sasha. Now they have already collided.

- The pile is small! - Petya shouts...

Elena Petrovna is very dissatisfied:

- Get up, dust each other off and think about whether you behaved well. Today you, Petya, and you, Sasha, will no longer ride. After all, everything could have ended very sadly...

Issues for discussion:

- Why do you think Elena Petrovna didn’t allow the boys to ride down the slide?

—Can everyone be first? What could have happened to the boys?

— Tell us how to behave when everyone wants to ride, but there is only one slide. Try to explain the rules of the game to Petya and Sasha. How do you understand Elena Petrovna’s words (“give in to each other”)?

- Think and tell me in what other cases we should yield to each other.

— Tell me about a time when children did not want to give in to each other and quarreled.

— Do you give up houses to your younger brothers and sisters?

Game situations:

Let Igor be Uncle Kolya, and Yulia and Lena his nieces. Uncle Kolya came from Murmansk. He brought one big starfish. Yulia and Lena must accept this gift, but not quarrel. Let's listen to the conversation and see how the children behave.

Fedya and Kolya went out into the yard. They have one bike between them. Kolya, give Fedya the bike.

Dima and Vera, you want to play checkers. Try to decide whose move will be first.

We all want to look at a funny little puppy.

Let's do this without crowding, giving in to each other.

Our group came to the zoo. And here is the kangaroo cage. How will you behave? Try to make sure everyone looks at the amazing animal.

Ekaterina Mikhailovna brought a book with pictures. Maxim, give in to Nadya. Let her look at the book first. Nadya, thank Maxim. Or maybe we should look at the book together?

Lesson 5. Topic: Polite request

Purpose of the lesson: introduce children to forms of expressing requests addressed to an older stranger, an older relative, as well as a peer in different situations: at home, on the street, in public places.

Perhaps this is the most difficult situation - to ask, but not to demand, not to take away! A kind word always works flawlessly. Repeat the expressions of request with the children. Make sure that the tone is even and polite (not flattering, but not rude or commanding).

It is important to convince the child that asking politely will help him get what he wants. The request must be addressed to a specific person: a peer - sister or brother, girlfriend or friend; an adult loved one - father or mother, grandmother or grandfather; an adult acquaintance - a teacher, teacher, nurse or neighbor; to an adult stranger - a seller or a passerby, etc. In each specific case, you should look the person in the face. It is advisable to pronounce the words of the request quietly. In the materials for the lesson you will find rude expressions accepted among preschoolers: “Fuck off”; “Well, give it to me”; “Your father is a glazier” (meaning “are you transparent”?). These expressions spoil speech and embitter children. It is important that children understand this, appreciate and choose forms of polite requests voluntarily.

Reading text:

Today dad returned from a ski trip. Petya entered the room and saw dad sitting, and Ksyusha next to him. Dad shows the photographs, Ksyusha carefully examines them. The photographs show high mountain peaks covered with fluffy snow.

Petya runs up to his sister, pushes her away from dad and snatches the photo.

- Well, give it to me! My photos!

Dad was very angry. He sternly told his son:

- First learn to ask politely, and then come!

Petya went to his grandfather.

- Grandfather, teach me to ask. I was so happy about dad, I had so much fun, so interesting! And Ksyushka burst into tears. So dad sent me away. He told me to learn to ask politely.

“There is nothing simpler,” answered the grandfather. “You must learn a few words.” Repeat after me: please; be kind; allow me; let me; beg; if possible, please let me see the photos.

Peter:

- Here's more tenderness! Never!

Let the beard grow sooner

How will I bow to this girl!

I'd rather stand on the sidelines...

Issues for discussion:

- Do you think Petya was allowed to look at the photographs?

- What does it mean to “ask politely”? Try repeating a few polite words after your grandfather.

Reading text:

On Sunday, the grandmother went with her grandchildren to the park. She sat on the bench, and Ksyusha and Petya played with the guys.

- Look what a huge beetle! - Yura shouted. “I’ve never seen anything like this.” Well, just like a bulldozer!

The guys huddled together. Everyone wanted to see the miracle beetle.

“Let me look too,” said Ksyusha.

- Hey, Yurka, is your father a glazier? - Petya shouted. - Get off! Let others see!

Issues for discussion:

- Do you think Ksyusha saw the beetle? Did Petya manage to see the beetle? What mistake did he make?

— If you were Petya and wanted to see a beetle, what would you tell Yura?

Reading text:

Mom bought big red apples. Ksyusha approached her mother and asked:

- Mommy, please give me an apple.

“Eat it after lunch,” mom answered.

- I beg you. I give you my word that I will eat all of lunch. I really want to try a beautiful apple. Please let me eat it before lunch.

Petya ran in. He saw the apples and grabbed the biggest one without asking.

Issues for discussion:

- Do you think Ksyusha received the apple before lunch and why?

- How do you think mom reacted to Petya’s action?

— What would you do in the place of Ksyusha and Petya?

— When you want to ask your mother for something, how do you do it?

- Let us repeat once again the polite words with which we ask for something. Should these words be spoken only to adults or to children too? (You need to be polite not only with adults, but also with peers - children should pay special attention to this.)

Reading text:

Grandfather took Ksyusha by the hand and went with her to the store.

“Grandfather,” Ksyusha asked, “I want to buy cookies myself.” Please give me the receipt and I'll try to contact the seller.

- Well, granddaughter, try it.

— Please, weigh one kilogram of cookies...

Issues for discussion:

— Last time we talked about what a polite request is. Did Ksyusha politely address the seller?

— If you need to buy three pencils, how do you tell the seller about it?

Text for reading and discussion:

Dad came with the children to the Sporting Goods store. He promised to buy Ksyusha a jump rope, and Petya a ball. Petya turned to the seller:

- Show it. My dad will buy me...

- Do you think Petya will get the ball?

— Teach Petya to talk to the seller. Let there be Faith

the seller, and Kolya the buyer. Act out the scene.

A mother and son are at the counter. The boy cries loudly:

- Oh, I want a hockey stick! Buy it!

“But you already have a hockey stick,” his mother persuades him, “calm down, please don’t scream...

- And I want this one! Buy it!

- Do you think the boy behaves well? Teach this crybaby to behave according to the rules. Let Inna be a mother, and Vova a son. Vova, ask “mom” to buy a hockey stick. Talk politely, quietly, without drawing the attention of others.

Lilya and Petya, ask your mother to buy a tennis ball. What polite words will you say to her?

Game situations:

- Let's play children's store. Valya is the seller, and the other children are buyers. Let's lay out the toys on the “counter”.

Each child chooses a purchase and contacts the seller, who answers politely.

In addition to the words of request, children should remember the words of gratitude and response to them - “please”.

You are in an unfamiliar city. You need to go to the zoo, but you don't know the way. A passer-by is walking towards you. Let it be Petya. Galya, go up to a passerby and ask him for directions to the zoo. How will you do it?

Mom told me to come home at 3 o'clock. But you don't have a watch. You will have to turn to someone senior. How will you do this?

Think of cases in which it is necessary to use words of request. Make sure that you and your friends never forget about them - neither at home, nor on the street, nor in kindergarten, nor in the store.

Lesson 6. Topic: Consolation

Purpose of the lesson: connect empathy with verbal expressions of sympathy, introduce words of consolation into the child’s active vocabulary.

Bitterness, callousness, and indifference, unfortunately, often accompany the communication of children. Let's try to crowd out emotional tension and unemotionality from life. Let's connect good feelings with kind words. A child cannot help but sympathize with a friend who has hurt himself painfully. He must know words of sympathy and consolation.

Reading text:

The boys in the yard started a game of hide and seek.

“Yurka, let’s run quickly, let’s climb into that big box, no one will find us there.”

Yura ran with all his might to the box, but accidentally tripped, fell and broke his leg. He cried loudly. Petya ran up to Yura:

— Calm down, please, Yura. Be patient, now I’ll call your dad. You'll see, everything will be fine.

Yurin's dad came out of the entrance:

- Pull yourself together, son. You are a man, and men should control themselves. Come on, show me what you have there? What nonsense! Now we will wash the wound, bandage the knee, and everything will pass. Until then, don't lose heart. As they say, “Be patient, Cossack, you will become an ataman!” It will heal until the wedding!”

Issues for discussion:

- Can we say about Petya that he is a kind boy? Why? What words did he try to console Yura?

- And what words does his dad use to calm Yura down? Why did he say: “Be patient, Cossack, you will become an ataman!”? (A boy, to become a real man, must try to endure pain courageously.)

- How do you understand the words “he will heal before the wedding”! When are these words spoken? Remember how the heroes of Russian fairy tales console each other (Don’t cry; Don’t grieve; Grief is not a problem; It will be

our street is a holiday; The morning is wiser than the evening; Your grief can be helped, etc.).

Game situations:

Let's find words of consolation (the task is given in pairs). Lena pinched her finger. She's in pain. Comfort her. The baby hurt himself and cried. Have pity on him.

Vitya broke the car that was given to him for his birthday. He was very upset. Think about how to help Vita.

Dad was delayed on a business trip. Mom is upset. How to console her?

Lesson 7. Topic: Conversation with a stranger on the street

Purpose of the lesson: introduce polite forms of addressing a stranger into everyday speech.

In the modern Russian language there are no stable, generally accepted forms of addressing a stranger that a child could use. The old forms - master, sir, madam have not yet taken root. The addresses uncle and aunt are possible in children's speech, but only in preschool age. Try to teach your child to address a stranger without using direct address: stop, pause, look at the person’s face and say the words: be kind, say please. Then ask a question.

Would you recommend using the question “what time is it” rather than “what time is it”?

Act out the dialogue scenes “Meetings on the street and in the yard.”

Reading text:

Petya and Yura are playing badminton on the court. Yura is worried:

- Petya, it’s probably time for me to go home. Dad allowed me to go out until six. How much now?

- Let's ask someone, Yura. Here at this grandmother's place... I'll run up...

An elderly woman wearing a black hat and gloves walked along the path. She was leading a curly poodle on a leash.

Petya hit an elderly woman with a running start and blurted out:

- Oh, ty... te... ba... excuse me, what time is it?

- What you said? - the woman did not understand. She flinched in surprise.

- Time, I gryu, how fast, huh?

The woman looked at her watch:

- Now...

But Petya no longer listened to her. He was talking to the poodle, and to make it more comfortable, he stood on all fours, nose to nose.

“Aw-aw-aw,” barked the poodle.

- Yes? “And I thought aw-aw-aw-aw-aw-aw,” answered Petya.

At this time, grandfather appeared on the site. He said:

— Hello, Nadezhda Petrovna! I see you have met my restless grandson.

Nadezhda Petrovna exclaimed: “What strange manners, take action immediately!”

Grandfather called Petya and Yura:

“Here’s what, friends, if you want to ask a question to a stranger, you need to slowly approach him and address him with the words:

Please tell me...

Petya and Yura approached Nadezhda Petrovna, Petya asked:

- Please tell me what time it is?

“Six o’clock,” Nadezhda Petrovna answered, and the poodle stood on its hind legs and barked—exactly six times.

“Thank you,” the boys said.

Issues for discussion:

— Did Petya behave correctly towards a stranger? How did his impoliteness manifest itself? (He was unable to formulate a question, to address himself, he spoke quickly and indistinctly, and when Nadezhda Petrovna began to answer him, he did not listen to her, but began to play with the dog.)

— What words should you say to find out the time from a stranger?

— How should you listen to him and what should you say in response?

Game situations:

Let's see how we can manage conversations with strangers.

Galya, for example, is an old woman walking down the street. Ira, go up to her and find out the time. How do you address a stranger, how do you ask your question? Don't forget to say thank you.

Yura, go up to an unfamiliar passerby and ask how to get to the puppet theater.

Lena, ask a stranger on the tram when the stop you need will be (for example, “Stadium”).

Vova, go up to an unfamiliar boy and ask where the children's cinema is located (zoo, children's library, museum).

Lesson 8. Topic: Addressing an adult

Purpose of the lesson: consolidate addressing an adult by name and patronymic, combining direct appeal with an expression of joy.

When contacting a friend, gender, age, degree of relationship or acquaintance are taken into account.

Ksyusha addresses Anna Ivanovna by name and patronymic. In Russian, this address is considered respectful.

When meeting, grandmother and Anna Ivanovna use words expressing joy: How glad I am! Long time no see! The last exclamation expresses joy at meeting a person whom they have not seen for a long time.

Act out a dialogue in which you need to use first and last names.

Reading text:

Ksyusha and her grandmother went to the zoo. On the way they met their grandmother's friend. Grandmother was very happy:

- Annushka! I am so glad! Long time no see!

- And I'm glad to see you. And who is this? Granddaughter? Hello hello! My name is Anna Ivanovna. And what is your name?

— Hello, Anna Ivanovna. My grandmother told me that you studied together and then worked together. I'm Ksusha. And I also have a brother. His name is Petya.

“It’s very good that we met,” said the grandmother. “The weather is good.” Let's go to the zoo together.

Issues for discussion:

- Why do you think the grandmother addressed an adult woman named Annushka? (After all, they studied together, which means they have known each other since childhood or youth. Adults often address close friends by name.)

— How did Ksyusha turn to her grandmother’s friend? Do you think Ksyusha was polite? (Yes, she addressed an adult woman by name and patronymic, said hello, said her name, that is, she followed the rules of dating.)

- Which adult will you address by name and patronymic? (To neighbors; friends of parents; educators: teachers.) Remember, you must address familiar adults by name and patronymic.

- What shows that the grandmother and her friend were glad to meet? (Repeat the words of joy they used.) What do you say when meeting someone you haven’t seen for a long time?

Game situations:

- Yura, what is your middle name? So, you will be Yuri Sergeevich - Colin's neighbor. Kolya, imagine that you meet your adult neighbor at the entrance and want to show him your new car. How will you talk? Both of you must be polite.

Let Tanya be a children's doctor - Tatyana Alekseevna, and Galya come to see her. Talk to each other.

Let Kolya be Nikolai Petrovich, Seryozha’s father. And you, Vitya, came to visit Seryozha. You must contact Nikolai Petrovich and ask him to help you and Seryozha understand the instructions for the designer.

Lesson 9. Topic: Polite conversation on the phone

Purpose of the lesson: to develop the skills of polite conversation on the phone: during the game, achieve automatic implementation in the child’s speech of etiquette expressions that accompany a telephone conversation.

Our age is the age of telephone communication. We need to teach children to talk on the phone. Explain how to dial a phone number, what expression to use to determine who answered the phone, how to introduce yourself when making a phone call.

On the phone you should speak correctly, in an even, calm voice. Please note that a child’s conversation with an adult must be emphatically polite.

A difficult type of telephone conversation is a formal conversation. Try to teach children not to be afraid to call the cinema, sports school, house management, or clinic. To do this, the child needs to remember the rules for starting and ending a telephone conversation and know firmly what he will talk about.

A conversation between friends should be relaxed, but words like “yeah” and “wow” spoil speech, make it ugly, and make it difficult to understand.

The reading text contains several dialogues, among which there are exemplary (for example, a conversation on the phone with grandmother and father), not quite exemplary and incorrect.

By talking about each conversation, you will explain to children how they should and should not talk on the phone.

Reading text:

Grandma calls dad at work:

- Hello! Be kind, please invite Alexander Fomich Kurbatov to the telephone. His mother asks him.

-Please wait. I'll invite him now.

Issues for discussion:

— Grandma knows how to talk on the phone well. What polite words does she use? (Be kind, please.)

The words “be kind” are common in adult speech. It is better for the child to say “please be kind.”

Did you answer your grandmother politely? How exactly.

Reading text:

Ksyusha calls her mother at work:

Hello! Hello! Please call your mother.

- Which mother?

— Ksyushin and Petina...

Issues for discussion:

— Do you think Ksyusha talked on the phone with her mother? Teach Ksyusha how to talk. (At work, mom is not called mom - you should say her last name, first name and patronymic. Although in general Ksyusha was polite, she said “hello; please.”)

— Try calling your mom at work and asking her to come to the phone.

Reading text:

Yura calls Petya:

- Hello! Petya, is that you? Hello. Yura says. I want to invite you and Ksyusha to my birthday party. Please come tomorrow at three o'clock in the afternoon. Just a must. Will wait.

— Thank you for calling, thank you for the invitation. We'll definitely come.

Issues for discussion:

— Do boys speak correctly on the phone? (This is an invitation conversation. Yura invites Ksyusha and Petya and uses etiquette expressions for this, names the names of friends, accurately indicates the time. And Petya answers correctly: thanks for the invitation. It feels like the boys are very friendly.)

Reading text:

The phone rings. Petya picks up the phone:

- Hello! Who's speaking? Peter?

- Petya, is that you?

- Did you recognize me?

- This is Yura.

- Do you know what I want to say?

— The guys are playing football in the yard. Let's go to?

- Yeah, come on.

Issues for discussion:

— Did you like the boys’ conversation? What words do you think should not be used in speech? Correct Petya's mistakes. Teach Petya to talk on the phone correctly.

— How should you dial a phone number correctly?

Reading texts:

Petya calls Yura. Yurin's dad picks up the phone.

- Call Yura.

- Yura is not at home. Who am I talking to?

- Okay, I'll call you later.

Ksyusha calls her friend’s mother:

- Hello! Hello. This is Ksyusha Kurbatova speaking. Irisha and I play hospital. Please allow her to stay with us a little longer.

- Okay, Ksyusha, play. Tell Irina to be home in an hour. Thank you for calling.

- Please. Goodbye.

Issues for discussion

- Compare these two conversations. Which child is better at speaking on the phone? Ksyusha greets and identifies herself. She politely expresses her request. And Petya? Did Yuri's dad like this conversation? Correct Petya's mistakes.

Reading texts:

The phone rings. Ksyusha picks up the phone.

- Hello! Is this the Ivanovs' apartment?

- No, you have the wrong number.

- Sorry.

- Please.

The phone rings. Petya picks up the phone.

- Hello! Is this a clinic?

- No... it's a swimming pool... ha ha ha!

Issues for discussion:

- Do you think Petya made a good joke? How should he respond? Let us remember how Ksyusha acted in this situation.

Game situations:

The phone rings. You, Vitya, pick up the phone.

- Hello, is this school?..

What's your answer?

What would you answer?

You, Kostya, are calling Yura. Yurina’s mother answers the phone. Ask her to invite Yura.

You, Ira, call Masha. Masha answers the phone.

Invite her to her birthday.

You, Boris, want to sign up for the Skillful Hands club yourself. Imagine that you need to talk to the leader of the circle. Call the House of Culture. Tell me over the phone what your last name is, how old you are, what kindergarten you attend, what time you can study in the club. Who will be the employee of the House of Culture? Are you Igor? That's fine. Have a conversation.

Lesson 10. Congratulations and wishes

Purpose of the lesson: correlate ideas about a holiday and holiday words, introduce expressions of congratulations and wishes into everyday speech.

Birthday is the biggest holiday. The child waits for his birthday with great impatience. Let's teach him to bring joy to loved ones on their birthdays, prepare gifts, and behave in such a way as to please the birthday person. But there are other holidays. Let's remember them together. Children love New Year; they make sure to congratulate their mother and grandmother on March 8th; Lately, traditional holidays such as Christmas (the Christian holiday of the birth of Christ) and Maslenitsa (an ancient Slavic holiday of farewell to winter, which is accompanied by folk festivities and games; pancakes are baked on Maslenitsa) have been revived. It would be good to tell children about Russian traditions. You can use paintings by Russian artists who depict traditional festivities and games. Each holiday corresponds to special speech forms of congratulations. To create a relaxed atmosphere, you can celebrate April 1 - April Fool's Day - with your children.

Reading text:

“Children,” said dad, “it’s your uncle’s birthday.” Let's congratulate him.

“I know how to congratulate,” Petya shouted. “I’ll go up to Uncle Kolya, salute and say:

A fly sat on the jam,

Happy Birthday!

- No, Petya, not at all like that. “I think Uncle Kolya needs to buy a gift,” Ksyusha suggested.

- You know what, children? Make some gifts with your own hands and figure out what to wish Uncle Kolya on his birthday. Mom will bake a pie, and I will buy a fishing rod. Agreed?

Ksyusha and Petya got to work. Ksyusha drew a boat. Uncle Kolya was sitting in the boat and fishing. Petya made a bucket and a large pike from plasticine - not a simple one, but a “talking” one. Then Petya and Ksyusha composed poems for their uncle’s birthday. Here's what they came up with:

Uncle Kolya! All your wishes

The pike will do it with great diligence.

We wish you good luck and goodness,

Be healthy. Fireworks and cheers!

We promise to always listen to you -

Your nephews Petya and Ksyusha.

Mom and dad praised the children. When Uncle Kolya entered the room, the table was set. Everyone began to congratulate the birthday boy.

Grandmother:

— Happy birthday to you, dear son! I give you a sweater. I knitted it myself.

Grandfather (holds out an album with illustrations of paintings by famous artists)." - Allow me to congratulate you from the bottom of my heart. Here is my modest gift.

Dad (shakes his brother’s hand and gives him a set of tools and a fishing rod):

— Hearty congratulations to the birthday boy. And this is from me as a keepsake for you.

Mother:

— Happy birthday from the bottom of my heart! Let me present you with this pie.

Ksyusha:

“And we would like to congratulate Uncle Kolya.”

Ksyusha and Petya hold out gifts and read their congratulations in verse in unison.

Uncle Kolya hugs his nephews:

- What a great fellow! Amazing children!

At this time the bell rings. They brought a congratulatory telegram: “Dear Nikolai Fomich! Please accept my warmest wishes on your birthday! We wish you health, joy and success. Your colleagues."

Uncle Kolya said:

- Today is a happy day for me. I will never forget him. I thank everyone for the warm congratulations and gifts. Thank you very much!

Issues for discussion:

— Did you like the congratulations of Petya and Ksyusha? What did you like about it?

It is very important to give the birthday boy something that will bring him pleasure. Gifts can be made with your own hands. Nikolai Fomich loves fishing, so Petya and Ksyusha give him a boat and a pike. It’s okay that the boat was drawn, and the pike was molded from plasticine. Uncle Kolya is happy. He feels that the children were trying to please him. The “talking” pike came from a fairy tale. Probably, the nephews want her to fulfill the three wishes of the birthday boy. Birthday is a fun holiday. To make sure everyone has fun, you need to try: come up with poems, draw posters, learn a song or dance.

However, one gift for congratulations is not enough: it is also important to know the words with which it is customary to address the birthday person. (The presentation of a gift is usually accompanied by congratulations and wishes of health, joy, and success.)

“Remember the words with which Uncle Kolya was congratulated by his nephews, grandfather, and grandmother. What other words could be said? How do you congratulate mom, dad, grandma?

— How did Nikolai Fomich’s colleagues congratulate him? (Congratulations are official.) Remember what was written in the telegram.

Game situations:

Let's play "Birthday".

Let Yura be the birthday boy, and we will congratulate him and give him gifts. To do this, everyone will choose a toy.

Think about what you will say to Yura when handing over the toy. Try not to repeat your words. After all, congratulations and wishes can sound differently. And you, Yura, must thank everyone and say a few words about each gift, praising it. You can say something funny. After all, a birthday party should be fun.

Variants of game situations: name day of grandmother, mother, father, doll’s birthday.

Instilling the basics of correct “table” behavior should begin in early childhood; only in this case will cultural skills become a habit and, to some extent, a natural personality trait of first a preschooler and then a schoolchild.

However, parents who are dealing with the problem of instilling table etiquette rules in their child must take into account that their child perceives adult habits as a model of behavior. This means that it is important to monitor your own manners, otherwise all your efforts will be in vain.

Apple from the apple tree

Teaching a child to behave correctly at the table is the task of mom and dad, not teachers in a preschool educational institution. When the baby begins to “eat” with adults, it is the latter who should instill in him the correct manners.

The best educational method is your own etiquette. If the household members themselves behave with dignity at meals, then, most likely, the child will eventually begin to perceive the rules of behavior at the table as a completely natural act.

Adequate food intake does not just mean eating quietly and using the necessary cutlery, but, first of all, the child’s ability to:

• eat without messing around with foods;
• don't slurp;
• do not rock in your chair;
• don't laugh loudly;
• don't push, etc.

Surely every child at an early age was interested in one of the above, bewildering guests or irritating parents. Adults should be persistent in teaching the child and point out incorrect behavior.

A child of one or one and a half years is not yet able to hear parental requests the first time, understand and change his behavior. In addition, at this age, children are not able to eat carefully due to physical characteristics - their tiny fingers are so clumsy that they cannot transfer the contents of a spoon into their mouth without much loss.

That is why you should mentally prepare for the fact that neat breakfasts are still far away, but there will definitely be scattered porridge, spilled soup and spilled jelly on the table. Only regular training will help you to confidently use cutlery after some time.

However, at the same time, the child needs to be explained basic rules, such as those that you can’t throw porridge, knock on a bowl of soup with a spoon, or pour juice on the floor. Behavioral norms are laid down already in early childhood, so there is no need to consider such explanations a waste of time.

To prevent the child from playing around with food and cutlery, it is necessary to set aside separate time for play activities: buy plasticine mass, safe paints for fingers. This will allow children to realize their natural desire to play.

It’s one thing if the problem of sloppy lunches lies in imperfect fine motor skills - you shouldn’t rush things, everything has its time. But if a child deliberately misbehaves at the table in order to attract parental attention, then it is necessary to react.

Children may not understand everything yet, but they are able to understand the emotional state of their parents. Therefore, mother can and should be told that bad behavior upsets her, since she prepared delicious porridge especially for her beloved son (daughter).

When to start etiquette lessons?

Etiquette and table manners are an important part of a child’s growing up. However, you need to decide at what age you can start targeted training.

Experts usually call the period 18 months when a child begins to actively imitate adults, diligently copying all their actions. In addition, it is at this age that children are already familiar with cutlery and operate them more or less skillfully.

All these opportunities must be taken advantage of. First of all, you should start with yourself, getting rid of the habit of drinking milk from a carton or mineral water from a bottle.

And, of course, it should be understood that the principles of behavior at the table for children should be as simple as possible and correspond to age and individual characteristics. For example, it is stupid to require a two-year-old child to know how to use a knife.

Playful activities are the most important method of teaching a child table etiquette. By coming up with a “celebratory reception in the royal palace” (with the participation of dolls), you can unobtrusively introduce the baby to the basic rules - both at a party and at home.

So, the age from 1.5 to 5 years is the ideal period for the formation of many habits, including such useful ones as table etiquette. A game will come to the rescue: playing with dolls that are having lunch, or playing with a teddy bear that comes to visit. And when the child grows up a little, he will be able to master other skills:

If a parent wants to teach a child how to behave at the table, then it is necessary to give up shouting and irritation. You should also remain consistent in your demands. Adults need to repeat the rules day after day and not change them at will.

This age period is the most important and fruitful for instilling table etiquette skills, but the situation is complicated by the fact that children no longer so obviously trust their parents’ words. The child is able to notice the discrepancy between the mother’s demands and her wrong actions.

What should children at this age be able to do? Below is a short list of basic etiquette skills:

If a child is “embarrassed” while visiting, you should not give him a beating in the presence of a stranger. You need to talk about the violation at home; if the offense is serious, you can arrange a family council.

Table etiquette for teenagers

A child over 10 years old usually already knows well all the rules of good behavior for children at the table. He understands how to properly handle basic tableware and understands when to sit down and leave the table.

However, these are only the main principles that every decent person should know. Now it is necessary to move on to narrower and more specific knowledge.

For example, you can teach your child to use utensils that are not used every day: crab and lobster forks, fruit tongs, ice tongs, salad tongs. Firstly, this way children will expand their erudition and culinary capabilities, and secondly, it’s just interesting.

In addition to advice for each age stage, there are also general rules, the implementation of which will quickly accustom your child to “table” etiquette. What do experts recommend:

Parental example is the lesson that children learn best. If mom or dad behaves carefully at the table, uses cutlery correctly, washes their hands before eating, etc., then mastering the skills will not take long.

What are the benefits of table etiquette?

Not all parents realize the importance of teaching their child table manners. But nowadays these skills are becoming truly necessary for a successful life.

Today, more and more often, serious matters are discussed over dinner in a restaurant, where deals are concluded. In addition, do not forget about visiting catering establishments with a pretty girl or guy or business partner. That is, observing etiquette can either help in adult life or harm.

The above outlines only general principles. Of course, each child is a bright individual, and each unit of society has its own dining traditions and rituals.

However, table etiquette for children in any situation has a common goal - to teach the child proper behavior in society, which should be useful in adult life. Therefore, parents should have a little patience and put in a little effort so that they can then be proud of their child’s impeccable manners.

Etiquette refers to the rules and norms of behavior that must be followed in certain situations and while in certain places. It is important to teach your child etiquette from infancy, then parents will not find themselves in awkward situations when they are embarrassed for their ill-mannered child. On the contrary, parents will hear many compliments addressed to their young ladies and gentlemen.

What types of etiquette are there for children and teenagers?

As you know, there are a large number of types of etiquette. But fortunately, children have a little less of them than in adults:

• Guest (how to behave when visiting)
• Day off (how to behave in special public places, for example, in a museum, cinema, theater)
• Passenger (how to behave in public transport)
• Family (how to behave with your family)
• Speech (how to conduct verbal communication correctly)
• Dining (how to behave at the table)
• Educational (how to behave correctly in educational institutions)
• Telephone (how to properly conduct conversations on the phone and by correspondence)

It is important for parents to understand that they can raise a child correctly only if they themselves are polite and well-mannered people. Setting the right example is the best way to instill good qualities in your children.

At what age should children start teaching etiquette?

This will surprise some, but from the birth of your baby you can begin to teach him etiquette. Newborn should be taught etiquette soft look, certain words, intonation. For example, before eating, wish him a bon appetit, and when the baby hands his mother a rattle, thank him. It is imperative to praise the child if he behaves correctly, and also, using intonation in his voice, to show that he is not behaving quite as he should.

Starting from the age of two, it is necessary to actively teach the child decent manners and rules of behavior, explain how he can act, and what is better not to do. Motivation helps in learning, and, of course, personal example.

Best suited for a child's perception game forms of education. You can simulate different situations, resort to story games and use different poems and fairy tales on the topic of etiquette.

At the age of four to six years, the child himself should understand the need to know etiquette. This will greatly help him to facilitate communication with his peers and adults. At this age, not only parents, but also kindergarten teachers play an important role in raising a child. At school, good manners will also be taught, but before this age, the child should already have a certain knowledge of etiquette.

How to organize etiquette lessons for children and teenagers

Children should be taught good manners at all times., use training in the form of a game, remind, often give examples - this process should be continuous. Frequent discussions of different situations and positive examples from adults can definitely lead a child’s education to success.

In order to ensure that the learning process in kindergartens and schools is not interrupted, special lessons and programs have been developed for teachers. If they wish, they can also find many free lessons and materials on the Internet.

How to teach your child table etiquette

It is necessary to teach your child table etiquette from an early age. It is important for the child to understand that food can only be eaten in certain places: in the kitchen or in the dining room.

For the little ones, there are the most important table etiquette rules:

• - food can only be taken from plates and with special utensils;
• - If necessary, use a kitchen napkin.

The older the child gets, the more rules of table etiquette he will know, but he must remember the main rules early:

How a child or teenager should behave when visiting

It is extremely important that the child knows how to both receive guests and behave decently when visiting. There are several rules of guest etiquette:

How a child or teenager should behave in public places

In order for parents not to feel embarrassed for their child, even when leaving home they need to be told about some rules of behavior in society. Especially necessary emphasize the rules of conduct in public transport:

Rules for exit etiquette

It is very good if a child develops culturally. To do this, parents need to take their child to the movies, theaters, and museums. But before going, you need to explain to your child what the rules of weekend etiquette are. For example, rules of behavior in the theater:

What are the rules of communication between people?

There are some rules of behavior at school that all children should know:

Family etiquette rules

There are also rules of decent behavior in the family:

• All older relatives should be treated politely and respectfully
• You can’t argue or raise your voice at relatives
• Before entering your parents' room, you need to knock
• You cannot swear, fight or argue with your sisters or brothers
• It is necessary to adhere to and support all the rules and traditions that are established within the family

It is necessary to teach children to be polite from a very early age. This determines how well the child will fit into modern society and how quickly he will master the skills he will need in the future. The rules of etiquette for children have been worked out by many psychologists, but it is the parents who have to present them.

What is etiquette?

This concept is defined between people, thanks to which relationships are established between them (friendly, romantic, family and others). Etiquette for school-age children in some educational institutions is taught from the elementary grades, and some do not even have the slightest idea about such an important subject. It is precisely in order for boys and girls to be able to exist normally in society in the future that parents must teach them this communication technique.

Has he outlived his usefulness?

Looking at the communication style of modern teenagers, many psychologists wonder whether etiquette has become obsolete in principle. However, they immediately pull themselves together, saying that it is impossible to build normal relationships without him, since there will be a rollback (degradation) to almost primitive times. Etiquette rules for children can be divided into several groups:

• dining room (how to behave at the table);
• guest (how to behave at a party and with guests);
• speech (how to talk with peers, adults, strangers);
• in public places (how to behave in public transport, parks, shops, theaters, circuses, cinemas and others).

Parents should instill all this from an early age, while the brain most quickly absorbs information and behavior patterns. It is noteworthy that etiquette for children includes all the points described above, just taking into account age characteristics.

2-3 years

During this period, babies are just beginning their active communication through speech with the outside world. And it is at this time that it is necessary to begin to explain to them the simplest rules of etiquette for children. First of all, the dining room. What is he? A set of small but quite significant rules that children should know.

Table etiquette

First of all, kids should not spit out food, smear it on the table, or throw it out of the plate. This is the most basic rule. not too extensive for children 2-3 years old. It is enough that the kids behave quietly and calmly at the table and do not talk while eating.

A culture of speech

Children of this age have a hard time learning complex words, but this is not a reason to give them up. From an early age, kids need to be told “magic” words that will be useful to them in the future. Namely:

• Thank you;
• Please;
• Hello hi);
• goodbye (bye);
• Bon appetit;
• Good night;
• Good morning.

At the same age, it’s worth teaching your child about trifles, not to complain about others. How prepared he will be for a larger group (school) depends on this. Etiquette lessons for children 2-3 years old can be conducted in a playful way to make it more interesting and easier for children to perceive new information. For example, use your favorite toys to play out this or that situation (the bunny said “thank you” to the bear for the candy).

4-5 years

At this age, children become more receptive to new knowledge and are also more open to verbal communication, because their vocabulary is already quite extensive. And the need for conversations and communications increases significantly. It is at 4-5 years old that you can begin to study “guest etiquette” for children.

Guest communication rules

Firstly, when going to visit an acquaintance or friend, you need to take a good mood from home. Since children of this age rarely visit on their own, parents should monitor how much their child wants to go somewhere in general. If a preschooler is upset or dejected, then nothing good will come out of his communication.

Secondly, you cannot demand anything from the owner of the house. Parents must explain to the child that touching anything without permission while visiting is not allowed. And even more so demand! This is where “magic” words can come to the rescue, with which the baby can ask for what he wants from the owner of the house. Etiquette for preschool children implies that the child will be able to establish contact peacefully.

Thirdly, you can’t sit until late. Even if you really want to, even if not all the games were replayed and things were redone. It is worth immediately (even before going to visit) to explain to the child that the owner needs to eat, wash and go to bed on time, regardless of your visit, which means that you need to go home when the parents decide.

If a friend comes to your baby, then your owner should know how to behave:

1. Share your toys and things.
2. Do not offend or bully the guest.
3. Treat yourself with sweets and delicacies.
4. Entertain the guest so that he does not feel bored and sad.

The rules of etiquette for children are not that complicated, but if you miss even one of them, you run the risk of getting an egoist and a jerk instead of an affectionate and friendly baby.

Junior schoolchildren

After kindergarten has already been left behind, the child experiences some stress when he gets to junior school. However, the rules of etiquette remain the same for him. Moreover, they are only increasing. For example, at this age, expanded dining, speech and social etiquette becomes relevant.

How to be at the table?

Several new rules are added to the load of what the child already knew:

• do not put your elbows on the table;
• start eating with others, and not earlier and not later;
• end the meal with words of gratitude, even if it was not tasty;
• praise the food offered;
• get up from the table with others or with the permission of adults.

Of course, many of the above points are not fulfilled even by the parents themselves. In this case, you need to start with yourself, and then teach your children. In addition, it is important not to teach children to eat in the room or in front of the TV, since there is a specially designated place for this (the kitchen table).

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Etiquette for school-age children prescribes the following rules of conduct:

1. Give up seats to older people on public transport.
2. Let women go first (relevant for boys).
3. Open doors for ladies (relevant for boys).
4. Let people leave the door, then just enter yourself.
5. Don't point fingers at anyone.
6. Do not pick your nose, do not burp, do not fart, do not yawn in front of everyone (you can use a handkerchief or fist).
7. When sneezing or coughing, cover your mouth with your palm or tissue.
8. Do not litter on the street and in public places.

This is the minimum knowledge that should be explained to the child by parents. How cultured he will grow up and how well he will fit into modern society depends on how well he follows these rules. Etiquette rules for children help you become somewhat kinder and more open to the outside world. Scientists have noted that it is easier to get a job, start a family, and achieve success than to be antisocial and uncultured.